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One Step From The Sun

*This Is A Gifted Outfit

Hey everyone, I hope you’re enjoying the autumn season and getting into the festivities that are taking place out there. I personally like to spend as much time as I can playing around in the leaves, enjoying the amazing food and of course the fashion! At the moment I’m going through an experimental phase when it comes to my look. I still have those elements that will always creep into my outfits but recently I have been trying to get the most out of the bright days as possible, especially seeing as it gets pitch dark before 5pm! I have been lucky though, there have been some great options out there both on the high street and online.

The UK’s longest running fashion brand to cater to curvy girls is of course Evans. I have been shopping there for as long as I can remember and I have to say their options have expanded so much over the years! They have been collaborating with a series of brands, new and innovative designers and at expanding their collections with each season. Just a few days ago I was at the SS17 press event by Arcadia and there are some incredible new lines coming next year. Top Shop in addition to their amazing clothes have an incredible new makeup range, Dotty P are playing around with a series of beautiful feminine styles (there is a silver pair of stilettos I must have) and of course Evans are bringing us fabulous denim, funky florals, dainty lace items and a series of botanical prints.

Recently I was given the opportunity to pull some looks from their current collection and I have to say it took me an age to make my picks as the options were just endless! There was something for everyone with a strong and large range of sparkly and dazzling threads for the upcoming party season. I will be sharing many of these items with you right here on the blog in the very near future, but to start with I went with some items that can be adapted into a series of both casual and dressy looks. Hanna and I decided to go to lunch on a Sunday afternoon and of course took full advantage of the warm sunshine. I was wearing this incredible Black Animal Print Shirt Dress from Live Unlimited. The oversized shirt dress has hanky hem detail and a long fitted cami underneath. This is one that could easily be worn open as a duster jacket or worn as more of a floaty dress i’m wearing this in a size 22. I decided to put it with a pair of the Ultra Stretch Skinny Jeans, size 24 (a must have item) and I was almost set. I really like the length of this one and the loose feel and have found this can also transition into a more sophisticated outfit perfect for the work environment.

There are only a few days left where we can pull out sunnies and incorporate them into our outfits. I am a huge aviator fan and I have probably around 6 or 7 pairs! I won’t lie, ever since I saw Michael Jackson rock these as a kid I have been obsessed with them so when Ray-Ban brought out a pair of gorgeous mirrored shades in a series of colours I wanted a pair! The blue ones of course were the colour I fell in love with and I was lucky to have been given this amazing pair on my birthday by Hanna and Sarah. My hair has been in small tight twists for a couple of days so my curls were extremely tight and small, making my hair look slightly shorter, what better excuse does a girl need to show off her favourite pair! I also love that the blue tints bring out some of the blue undertones in the shirt dress.

I’m proud to say that my shoe collection is starting to grow and take some shape. I have to admit I put a lot less attention to my footwear than I do my clothes but recently I have found myself drawn to some really fun and interesting footwear. I like to feel comfortable when I’m out and about so this amazing pair of woven slip on sneakers from Lane Bryant were my shoes of choice.  A really bouncy and fun shoe that made for a great casual feel.

A simple long chain, my hoop earrings with some basic makeup and I was ready and set for my day. I like to be playful in my style and whilst keeping things simple sometimes I still try to wear an outfit with a bit of flair. As the cold starts to creep in i’ll have to play around with some more sweaters and jackets but while the sun still continues to shine I will most definitely include some light and floaty options into my look.

Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and wear it with a smile!

 

It’s All In The LBD!

There are many terms and phrases that are applied to the clothes that we wear and many of them are amazing at describing a particular garment or style. I have my very own fashion phrase, I often refer to wearing a power colour. For me there are 3 power colours that I always enjoy wearing, can easily and comfortably style and know that whatever my makeup or hair style I can rock! These would have to be red, blue and of course black! Black is that staple colour that everyone has in their wardrobes. Some people rely on this shade for their signature look and work it into all of their outfits, others like to use it as a statement choice or for a more sophisticated finish. I used to pretty much live in black and it’s not hard to see why, every other colour works with it, any season appreciates it and everyone knows how to rock it!

All women are pretty much told that it is essential to own at least one black dress that can work for all occasions and situations. I have to be honest whilst I have many black dresses I have only recently gotten one that works for any occasion and it would have to be this amazing midi dress from Zizzi. This is a brand I have loved since I was first introduced to their fresh and fun style and, I have to say everything I have worn of theirs I have felt amazing in! This dress in particular is from a previous collection of theirs. I should note that they have some fab options similar to this available from many online and in store outlets in Europe. We Brits are fortunate to be able to get some of their hot items from UK outlet Navabi.

I can’t quite say I have a particular style of dress that I favour but I do tend to gravitate towards dresses that are midi length with 3/4 sleeves. I guess it’s because I know what shoes I would pair with them or what jacket lol. What I loved about this dress when I first saw it was how simple it is in it’s style whilst still having some small but very striking features. I really love the split at the front with the asymmetrical cut and the broach detail at the waist for a little added bling. The gathering is really flattering and also can help on those days when you just don’t want to wear any shapewear. I like the scoop neck detail and long sleeves with baggy upper arms. This is a dress that nips and hugs all the right places and flows across the curves beautifully.

You all know how I am when it comes to colours, coordination is key in my look and lucky for me having black hair makes things easy at times. I decided when styling this one I would keep things simple. My Vanity ankle boots from Hotter were a must for height and comfort. I wanted a boot that was simple with a little added flair and the gold zipper detail was perfect for my choice of accessories. In keeping with the gold of the boots I wore a supper long, skinny gold necklace. I’ll be honest I couldn’t find my gold hoop earrings anywhere and so my silver ones were worn. It worked out well though because my black, gold and silver bangle came in handy and my sequin clutch was the perfect bag to pull it all together. I just so happened to be wearing silver chrome nail polish too lol. My look was simple staple colours and tones but it all tied in together well. This dress is fast becoming one of my favourites to wear, I have worn it to work, out with friends for dinners and as somewhat of a modest party dress.

When I took these pics I was in a pretty good mood. You know when you’re having a day when you like how your make up came out and you think your hair is pretty much on fleek? I always wear a rich red lip when i’m wearing a fully black outfit. I find the small but sharp pop of colour adds a little extra something to the look. I also love how the contrast between my hair and the outfit combined with the red lipstick makes my teeth look so bright and white.

Confidence is the most important accessory you can bring to any look. I always find that if you feel good in what your wearing you tend to feel better during the day. You feel ready for whatever task is at hand, can walk with pride and get the job done! A Little black dress may be an essential element to the wardrobe of every woman, but it has to be something that makes you feel a million dollars when wearing it! I have to say I have a lot of fun wearing this dress and find that I get a little extra spring in my step as I feel so amazing wearing it!

Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and wear it with a smile!

All Girls Love Pink

*Top Leggings And Shoes Were Gifted Items

You know it’s funny  how some things you just can’t seem to get used to. Take London for example, I have lived in this crazy city my entire life and I still struggle with what to wear between the months of September and October. See you would think that we would be well into the autumn season by now but the truth is, we had a pretty hot September and October has shown itself to be a very confused month weather-wise. We’ve had hot bursts of sunshine, rain and even winter cold. Many people are making the choice to eliminate all colour from their wardrobes, opting for a more dark and sophisticated selection during the season.

I personally love wearing black I always have as I find it to be one of the easiest block colours to play with. I too tend to wear many darker colours this time of year but I enjoy bringing in a sharp burst of colour to wake up an outfit. One colour I don’t have much of but always enjoy wearing is pink. I really like the way it works with my complexion and I find it can be a great colour to soften a look. I thought it would be cool to wear this baby pink asymmetrical frill top from Evans. What first drew me to this top when selecting it for review was the frill detail. I’m not a huge fan of hanky hem designs but this one really caught my attention. I really like how much longer it is at the back compared to the front and I found that this was a really comfortable top to wear both causally and professionally. As much as I enjoy showcasing a little cleavage now and then it is nice to be able to wear a modest design you can cleverly accessorise to spice up the style.

As there is a chill in the air at the moment I decided to pair this one with one of my old favourites, my black longline cardigan from a previous Yours Clothing collection. I love layering blacks and so it was a no brainer for me to wear this look with the best pair of leggings I have ever owned! One thing about sharing a love of fashion with one of your best friends is when you share info about new and interesting brands and styles. Hanna recently introduced me to a small indie brand from Finland, Excuse My Bon Bon. They create modern and fresh clothes for us curvy girls and have a great motto that goes along with the clothes. “Excuse my bon bon” is something I personally took to mean ‘excuse my big booty while I rock these hot clothes! The brand say ‘it is an attitude that helps you focus on the good, to make way for the curves and enjoy the chocolates without a guilty conscience’. I love that their focus is on how you feel in the clothes. I find if you feel good in what you’re wearing the clothes they will look great regardless! It just so happens that they have a really chic and sexy range of high quality garments to suit all shapes.

Their Lina leggings are an incredible fit, featuring a high waist with rubber band elasticated panels that smooth and lift your behind whilst pretty much working as spanx to the stomach. I have to say they are extremely comfortable and are a nice thick material perfect for the colder days. I really like the thick seam detail  across the front of the legs too. In keeping with selecting black items to complete this look my Michelle heels from Hotter were my shoe of choice and a black paisley bandana for my hair. Silver is always my go-to jewellery colour and so I thought my love hearts matching necklace and drop earrings would be a fun and girly addition to the look and my sparkly silver clutch with chain strap.

Like many women out there I often carry my shades with me just in case there’s a nice burst of sunshine and so I had what I call my “Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis” shades from D&G with me. I love a pair of large tinted shades. They not only work on sunny days but also on those days when you have the outfit together but don’t quite have time to fix your eye makeup lol.

Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and wear it with a smile!

Sophisticated Chic – A Junarose Review

*This Dress Is A Gifted Item

There are many things I love about the current options plus size women have when it comes to fashion and beauty. One in particular are the multipurpose clothing items out there. Many of us are busy working women, some even have the added challenge of raising a family. We all have our things to do and time can be taxing so it’s nice to have comfortable casual style options that work between personal and professional, night and day.

I love dresses of all shapes, colours and styles but I have to admit my closet holds only a few strapless items. Like many curvy girls out there my arms have been a sore spot for me confidence wise and it’s only been about a year or so since I realised having my arms out doesn’t bother me at all anymore. I guess you could say I was worried about my biceps being a little too chunky. As time has passed things like that don’t really bother me in the same way that they used to. Those of you who are familiar with my blog will know that I’m all about wearing what you like and not really thinking about what other people’s opinions are…

I was recently given the chance to go through some amazing Junarose samples and one dress that caught my eye is this wrap front maxi dress. I instantly knew that this dress would be perfect for some casual wear, a day out with friends or even a business lunch. Stopping just across the calf this one makes for a nice length on my 5’5 frame. Perfect if you want to show off a little skin without showing too much. In a soft periwinkle blue with added tie detail this strapless number is most definitely a multipurpose dress! The wrap front with lapel detail gives off a tasteful amount of cleavage and the ties are a small but really nice addition.

I decided to wear this one with some strappy black sandals and a simple clutch. A cute blazer, denim or even a biker jacket would help in bringing this dress into more of an evening look. The block colour also makes this one work with gold or silver adornments and accessories. I recently had my hair in braids so with this look I decided to sweep them up into a bun and wear simply diamante stud earrings. I kept my makeup simple, wearing a deep pink lip for a bit of added colour.

This dress is currently on sale, available from the Junarose website.

Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and wear it with a smile!

From Summer To Fall

*Skirt And Shoes Are Gifted Items

It’s official, summer is over and we are well and truly into Autumn. For me one of the things I hate about this time of year is not being able to wear some of my summer threads that have made their way into my wardrobe. This past weekend we experienced a final burst of summer heat and with that I knew it was time to finally take some pictures in a couple of my favourite summer looks. This beautiful print circle skirt is a an item I have had for a few weeks now that was sent to me by the amazing American plus size brand, Lane Bryant. I have to say their summer collection this year was just gorgeous, there were so many amazing items I had my eye on, this skirt was one of many.

I took a look look at my wardrobe and a realised that one thing I lack, is great skirts! I love skirts but for some reason I have been gravitating towards pretty dresses. The thing is though, skirts make for a great separate they can be adapted into a variety of looks and styles, be made suitable for business or personal endeavours and, can work as a fabulous signature item in an outfit. I love the midi length and the gorgeous coral colour with peach shapes. The are 2 pockets in this skirt which are pretty deep and would be great for holding your phone or some cash while you’re on the go. I wanted a summery and casual look so I paired this skirt with a simple grey t-shirt and coral statement necklace. I look forward to experimenting more with this one and seeing if I can incorporate it into some autumn looks.

I love a good pair of heels, I find that just like a great staple item in the closet they too can be paired with a variety of styles and looks. I was recently given an opportunity by Hotter to visit their Bromley store and select a new pair of shoes for review. I have to say their AW16 range is really gorgeous this year. There are so many nice shoes, boots and heels for the season; each pair in a series of colours. I selected the Georgette shoes in pale bronze colour. I love the metallic shimmer detail and the gorgeous champagne tone. I find that with shoes they also needed to be treated in the way your wardrobe is. Every woman in the land would say you need to have a little black dress in the range and I feel that with shoes not only are black heels a must, but so are nude tones! When you want a shoe to work in with a pale outfit, sometimes black can be a little harsh and nude tones not only work with most colours and skin complexions, they create a really gorgeous soft feel in the shoe.

What drew me to this pair firstly is that they are the same height and shape as the Michelle heel from a previous collection. As you know I have worn those heels so many times on this blog we have all lost count lol. The truth is that they are my go-to heel, not only for their amazing comfort but because they are high enough to look sexy yet modest, but adaptable enough to work with a series of looks. I knew instantly the Georgette heels would be a good choice. This time though, Hotter have yet enhanced their amazing technology and the insoles have an even more cushioned and airy feel. The softness and bounce of the soles adds an extra spring to your step and being even more comfortable than any heel in the previous collections. These are also available in a beautiful navy and black colourways.

Summer may be over and the cold is starting to creep it’s way into the days but you know what I always say, have fun in what you wear! I still plan on bringing in bright and fun colours and prints to my looks and will enjoy playing around with some fun winter styles. Stay tuned….

Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and wear it with a smile!

Blue And Distressed

*This outfit was gifted

Sometimes despite what the weather is doing you just want to be casual and comfortable. In my case I still try to bring in a little of my signature elements even to the simplest of looks. I was out for a walk in the park and so I decided to go for a sports luxe sort of look. I was recently sent some amazing items from Lane Bryant and one of them was this incredible Luster tee in metallic blue. You all know my love of all things blue and so for such a simple tee this for me was a must have item. I am wearing this in a size 22/24 as I wanted a slightly oversized fit. I have to say Lane are doing a lot to empower all curvy girls out there with their #plusisequal and #imnoangel campaigns. The brand has a host of styles to suit all women out there from the smallest of plus sizes right the way to the largest and I have to say I am loving it!

I decided to pair the tee with a pair of distressed white jeans designed by Hollywood actress Melissa McCarthy, these jeans were previously available at Evans. I’m wearing these in a size 24 but could have gone for a 22 or even 20 for a skinny fit. There are some great options available so be sure to check them out on the Evans website. I love the ripped effect on the jeans and the fringed detail at the hem of the legs. In these pictures I turned up the jeans at the bottom to highlight my shoes. I have always been a fan of white jeans and these I have to say are the first pair I have owned in about 7 years! For a long time there hasn’t been a pair on the market that I wanted to get my hands on but there is just something about this style of jeans that grabbed me. I have to say the denim is really soft on the skin and is amazingly comfortable to wear.

In keeping with the theme of casual and sporty I decided to wear my holographic trainers from a previous Primark collection. I of course decided to go for a navy blue bandana for a fun and comfortable look and as an additional blue piece. My usual large hoop earrings and I was pretty much set. I have had a lot of fun wearing these items and have paired them with a variety of looks. The jeans have worked as a basic staple that have been worn with monochrome styles and block colour tops. I even wore these with a pair of nude heels, my pleather biker jacket and a stylish top for an evening look. I will have to take some more photos to show you guys what I came up with.

I was at a recent blogger event held by Navabi and I attended wearing the Luster Tee, some wet look leggings, my Vanity boots from Hotter and my pleather biker jacket from Yours Clothing. The same navy bandana was my chosen colour of the day with my usual makeup and hoop earrings. I of course was trying on a series of items from the Navabi collection and they too went amazingly well with the top.

*Photos by Michael Chapman

I think there are so many fun and interesting ways that you can work a simple tee or a pair of jeans into your look. Don’t be afraid to experiment, sometimes the results can not only be extremely comfortable and can easily lend themselves into a day or night time look. We’re still experiencing the strong burst of summer heat so for me the sports luxe look is a comfortable option at the moment but I will most definitely be having more fun with tees and more playful items this autumn!

Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and wear it with a smile!

 

Paint Pots And Dolores Dolls – A Collectif Review

There isn’t a woman out there who hasn’t seen a dress that she just HAS to have! Admittedly I see gorgeous clothes all the time but it’s not so often that I literally find myself searching the globe for a dress! When I first saw the gorgeous Paint Pot Dolores doll dress from Collectif I could see myself wearing it. I knew exactly how I would style it, exactly where I would wear it and exactly how great I would feel in it! Now anyone who knows me knows that when it comes to vintage swing dresses I’m a little crazy! I have more in my closest than I can literally store, in a series of bright and bold colours and prints and even though some have similarities, they all have a little something special about them.

My ultimate vintage cut is the Dolores Doll from Collectif. I have loads of them now and I don’t plan to stop buying them anytime soon! I say this a lot, when something works for me I stick with it! I’m the girl who would and has bought the same dress upwards of 10 times, simply because the colour is different or there is a slight design tweak. The Dolores Doll for me is the perfect length for my 5’5 frame, the cap sleeves are extremely comfortable and are perfect for covering up the bra straps. I find that these dresses lift and shape my bust in a way that gives the ultimate cleavage and they are just the right cut and shape for an extremely sexy yet modest look.

When I was sent the lookbook for a recent collection by Collectif I was instantly taken by the amazing new lines all in paint pot print! I instantly knew I wanted the girly pink and blue version of the dress. I love wearing all shades of blue as you know and pink is a colour that whilst I enjoy it, I like to pair it with many tones and shades. This dress took a lot of the work out of putting the colours together and for me needs very little with it! Unfortunately for me this dress sold out so fast I was unable to get my hands on one! I literally mean the dress was sold out in size 20 within a matter of days! The spaghetti strap version, the Janie was also totally unavailable! I was crushed. I made it a personal mission a few years ago to treat myself every summer to an incredible vintage dress and the only one I set my sights on was the Dolores Paint Pot dress!

 

As you can imagine a keen few women out there beat me to the punch as well as some wholesale companies who source some of their vintage goodies from the brand. I scoured the internet hoping for an opportunity to buy a second hand version but of course no one wanted to give up this one! My search led me to a dutch based vintage company Succubus where I snapped up one of the last in my size, spending money I didn’t have at the time and not even caring about the cost lol. As soon as I paid I had my eyes on the tracking website and post every day that followed, lucky for me I got this vintage treasure in record time!

Hanna and I had decided to spend an afternoon in Highgate, the weather was great, sun was shinning and I was in the perfect mood to wear a girly dress! I decided to pair this one with my white Sam’s petticoat from Vivien Of Holloway, Michelle shoes from Hotter and the main outfit was pulled together. In keeping with the idea of white additions I pulled my new denim jacket from Zizzi, recently gifted to me by one of their UK stockist, Navabi. I’m wearing this in a size 22. My new square buckle stretch belt from Lane Bryant was a must with this look. One of my many bandanas, this time in baby pink, my hoop earrings of course and I was set.

I have to say I’m so happy to finally have this dress. I love everything about it and I have to say, this is another one I just have to twirl in!

Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and wear it with a smile!

 

High In My Stripes

I’m a firm believer in making a statement. I’m someone who has never been afraid to speak my mind or showcase my personality and I guess when it comes to choosing my clothes I adopt the same mindset. I believe everyone should have an outfit or 2 that makes a statement and catches the eyes of many when you walk in the room. I like to experiment with patterns, prints and bold colours. I tend to have the most fun when it comes to dresses and skirts and one thing I love doing is playing around with monochrome looks.

One of the oldest patterns known to man and one of my favourites to wear is stripes! Unfortunately for years there has been this insane rule that says that larger people should only be seen wearing vertical stripes as they are “slimming”. I’m no fan of following fashion rules, I buy the clothes that catch my eye and I enjoy wearing and, although I don’t wear this dress often I always feel great when I do! I remember buying this dress a few years ago from Asos and what I loved about it back then is what I love about it now, the series of stripes in random directions in monochrome.

Admittedly this dress is made of a rather thin material and so with that in mind I the weather has to be suitable in order to pull this one out of the closet. Sometimes you want a sexy fitted bodycon dress that does all the talking for you. It’s no secret I enjoy wearing tight dresses and more often than not ones that are slightly lower cut and expose a fair amount of cleavage. I like the modesty of this dress and find that it can be worn pretty much anywhere. I really like the length of this one as it stops just below the knee and can be paired with many different items for a fun look. With 3/4 sleeves this dress is one that is easy to wear with confidence, especially if you’re a woman who doesn’t like her upper arms exposed.

I decided to pair this dress with a hot tassled jacket from a previous collection at Lane Bryant. As the weather is quite unpredictable in London and we aren’t really experiencing a typical London summer, the need for layers is still very much here. Having said that I wanted to wear some heels and I thought the best thing would be to pick out a pair of boots. I of course decided to wear my Vanity Boots from Hotter.

My rule when playing with monochrome looks is to wear a sharp bright red lipstick. I love red lipstick, especially seeing as it makes my teeth look so white lol. I also love going with bright red lips when I play around with my vintage looks or simple black and white outfits. My current lippy of choice is ‘Forgive My Sin’ by L’Oreal Paris. I love the deepness of the red and what’s more, it lasts for hours and keeps your lips really hydrated and smooth, unlike a lot of other options on the market.

When it comes to fashion I like breaking the rules. You know what I always says. Wear what makes you feel fabulous!

Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and wear it with a smile!

Girly Girl

There are some things that all women have in common regardless of what their background or personal style is. We have all found ourselves sifting through everything that we own in our wardrobes unsure of what to wear, and we have all woken up with a random need to feel somewhat girly. Now girly for some would be dressing in bright pink with their hair in pigtails and cute makeup. For others it might be wearing a set of lingerie that makes them feel that extra bit feminine. In my case when I feel the need to be girly one thing comes to mind. What sort of skirt am I gonna wear and how big do I want it? I tend to gravitate towards sexy bodycon dresses, vintage swing dresses or tulle skirts.

The sun was shinning bright and strong the other day in London and I knew that I wanted to wear my navy tutu skirt but I had no idea what I should pair with it. The last time I had worn this skirt the weather was a lot cooler and I was able to pair it with a sweater and some nude heels. This time around I wanted to be bright in the summer sunshine but I also wanted a look that would transition well into an evening look. The plan was set I was going to go bare legged and pair the skirt with a cute t-shirt. Now I should note that this particular skirt was from Asos a while back and from their standard range. From what I have seen they no longer stock this one but they do have some similar options here. Last summer Scandinavian brand Zizzi released their summer collection, Wardrobe of wonders. They had some amazing items including some cute school girl inspired items, check out my previous review here. In the collection they had a really cool digital print line featuring midi skirt and crop top tee. I was lucky enough to get the skirt and borrowed the top a few times from Hanna. The good news is that both the top and skirt are still available from uk outlet Navabi.

What I love about plus size fashions now is that there is something for every kind of curvy woman out there. Should you choose urban street styles, vintage classics, current casuals or smart sophisticated evening wear there is something for everyone. I have said many times I like to dress to my mood which I why I like to carry a wide range of clothes in my wardrobe so that I can be ready to attend whatever event or occasion in appropriate items. My personal trick to save space and money is to buy clothes that can be worn in more than one way preferably for a casual and smart look. Of course I have some items that are exclusive to specific occasions but this is why when I pick my separates such as skirts and tops, I tend to go for colours I can easily incorporate into my style. Anyone who knows me personally will know that I try to colour coordinate almost everything I wear. This is something that was ingrained into me as a child and a particular style trait I still practice.

I thought I would wear my pleather biker jacket for additional coverage and to offset the black heels I chose. I opted for my number 1 go to heels my pairs of Michelle shoes from Hotter. A simple black clutch was required, my signature hoop earrings and a pop of red! I chose my new favourite lipgloss, Forgive My Sin from L’Oreal Paris. I tend to keep my makeup the same with pinup style winged eye liner, mascara, my brows of course and a touch of foundation. I play around mostly with my lip colour but it tends to be reds and pinks I gravitate towards the most. Specifically deep reds. I love how they look against my complexion and I find that my teeth looks miles whiter when I wear red which is always a bonus lol.

Every now and again it’s fun to dress up in a way that makes you feel fun, feminine and bright. Sometimes you just have to do what makes you feel good and be mindful that you may draw some attention to yourself which is always good if you’re feeling confident! Have fun with your look and if you haven’t already ladies, try out a tutu or tulle skirt! They are a lot of fun to wear and can make for some great outfits!

Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and wear it with a smile!

 

 

Back To My Roots

You know it’s funny sometimes things happen to you for reasons you don’t expect and when you don’t see them coming. In my case I’m talking about my latest achievement on my journey to confidence. What I’m about to discuss for some people would seem like a small thing but if you stick with me for a few minutes I’ll do my best to explain. A few weeks ago I decided to take the plunge and go natural. What do I mean by go natural? I’m speaking specifically about my hair. Most women know what it is to wear their natural hair and even what it is to treat and style it. I really had never had the chance to do so until just over a month ago. Let me take you back a bit…

Me as a tot with my dreads

When I was a child my hair was in dreadlocks until I was about 14-15 years old. Both my mother and father have dreadlocks and my mum later told me it was never her intention to lock my hair but as a child I simply would not let her style it without bringing my house into a state of chaos as I screamed in protest while she worked to style my hair. Of course my hair was a lot softer as a child but I have always had extremely thick and tight hair. Growing up I never really thought much about my hair I would wash it weekly and then sit down to let my mother twist my stray hairs into my locks. It was when I got into secondary school I realised that I wanted to change my hair and try new styles but that would mean doing the dreaded chop and cutting it all off. As an over weight teenager who already had a lot of attention from bullies and other people in the class the last thing I wanted to was draw more attention to myself by having a bald head, so I spoke to my mum about the situation and it was decided that I would let my hair grow out somewhat and then cut it and work with braids until I could get it to a decent length.

In My late teens with braided extensions

I started speaking to some of my cousins to see what things they did to maintain and style their hair and I soon realised that I would have some different challenges to them when it came to maintaining my own hair. My hair is thicker than that of most people’s and some would describe the texture as nappy. To mixed raced and black people it’s been deemed over the years a really negative thing to have nappy hair. What the term means is that you have really dry, coarse and tight afro like hair. For people of other ethnicities this doesn’t seem to even be something they think about and in truth most of my friends who are of other backgrounds have been pushing for me to wear my natural hair out for years! The problem with doing this was, well me…

Me with my hair relaxed, wearing some weave tracks in my hair

The truth is that for decades the world has been shown one very small standard of beauty which leans towards the looks and features that Caucasian, European women have. Thinner bodies with slightly smaller curves and beautiful long, shiny and straight hair. Already women of colour were set a precedent that we simply could not live by and as a result we have seen women bleaching their skin for years, dressing and wearing clothes that may not have been their preferred style and of course the changing and experimentation with our hair. For years women like myself played around with relaxing our hair which basically means to paint a chemical paste into our hair that burns it straight. I did this for years and to be honest I always have and will always hate the process. It’s extremely painful and could often times leave you with scabs or scars on your scalp. The hair can become brittle and damaged and as a result can take forever and a day to grow! The thing is I come from a mixed race family and have a host of friends from all over the world so I personally don’t feel I have carried all of the baggage that some other coloured women carry when it comes to having confidence in their looks. In my case the problem was initially my weight and then of course my hair.

Wearing a relaxer with a clip in extension 

I finally reached a point where I would find ways to achieve the hair looks I liked without having to put my hair and scalp through so much physical trauma. I started to experiment with weaves, clips ins and eventually wigs. The truth is though while I like how I looked with these styles they are extremely expensive to do. It’s no wonder the hair industry is such a wealthy business and from what I have seen over the years it’s women of colour who have been the largest consumers of synthetic and human hair supplies and extensions. Recently we have seen a rise with women of all races buying into these products which I can only assume is a result of celebrity pressure that we all face, through social media and reality TV shows. The past 10-20 years has seen women doing anything and everything to enhance the beauty we already carry with wearing new styles of makeup such as nail extensions, false eye lashes, fillers and injectables and of course additional hair pieces. I recently hit a financial snag and was simply unable to find the few hundred pounds required to do something about my hair! I thought about relaxing my hair again which I hadn’t done for nearly 2 years and thought back to the horrible experiences of my past. The average woman can use about half  tub of relaxer to work on the 2-3 inches of regrowth she would need to burn her hair straight. In my case I would need up to 2 tubs for the same amount of hair growth due to how thick and coarse my hair is! I could only imagine how much of the stuff I would need to do what’s known as a virgin relaxer and the thought of sitting for an hour with my scalp on fire was not an option!

Wearing a wig

A mix between natural and enhanced. I wear my hair in corn row braids and a clip in extension

My friend Venice had taken the time out to pretty much give me the push I needed to just work with what god gave me and wear my own hair out. It had been years since I had worn just my natural hair out, the last time was when I had had dreadlocks! Now in my late twenties the prospect was rather daunting for me and I suddenly felt my self confidence being questioned. Venice washed and conditioned my hair (with some products I’ll later be reviewing on the blog), showed me some techniques to condition my hair to help with growth and style. She had been doing the same thing to her daughter’s who’s hair is like mine. I have to say after taking out my large twists and seeing my huge bouncy curls I was taken aback for about 5 minutes and then I suddenly thought wow it’s me, all me! Even my hair has a large personality of it’s own and I should embrace this! I took some pictures with Hanna, put them on Facebook and the amount of compliments I received from my friends and loved ones shocked me! I was given a new source of confidence and I am slowly falling in love with my own hair for the first time in my life!

Like I said before I know this seems like a small fate to some but I had no idea why so many women were throwing away the wigs and weaves and going bare with their own hair. This was a movement I hadn’t taken the time to look into or be a part of. I simply ended up taking note when I saw other friends doing the same and it was only because of my financial situation and some kind words from some friends that I thought oh what the hell let’s give it a go! I say it all the time about fashion and wearing what makes you feel confident, we need to play around with our look more to see what works for us. I now say the same about your hair and I encourage all women out there with quote on quote “nappy” or course hair to give this a go! I’m so happy I did!

Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and wear it with a smile!