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It’s All About Love

A plus size woman smiling wearing a black love slogan sweater, a-line midi skirt and blue trainers

It’s the first week in December and with that comes talks of family, friends, gatherings and of course love. The UK is always buzzed this time of year but after hearing the news of Prince Harry’s engagement it seems love is something the whole country is thinking of. Mistletoe is hanging everywhere, romantic movies are on show. Parties, dinners and other celebrations are taking place all over the country…. And it’s no surprise that already a date is set for our favourite royal and wedding bells will be ringing in May. I am a huge fan of love in all of it’s forms and I enjoy wearing things to represent that. When I saw this cute off the shoulder sweater from Rose Gal I knew I wanted to try it. This one is available in red, white and grey also.

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Sometimes you want a girly look with a twist. I paired this sweater with a pleather skirt from Zizzi that I was sent with some other samples. Deciding to keep everything black I thought i’d throw in a splash of colour in places. Wearing a cute pair of satin trainers in my favourite colour blue, these are from a recent Asos collection. When my clothes are black I like to wear red lipstick with my makeup.

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I’m a sucker for all things love related. I enjoy seeing people gather and sharing positive vibes. Being out and about seeing people romantically in love and doing kind things for others makes me smile. The funny thing is that in some cultures my name carries the meaning so maybe there’s something in that lol. At present I pretty much have a non existent romantic life. Not a woman who gets in my feelings about these things, I like to focus my energies on loving myself and those around me. Of course I start with trying to spend time learning and building my faith, eating right, sleeping well, exercising and taking the time to see friends and family. I won’t try to pretend to be perfect though, like everyone else I have my faults…

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Things often happen that challenge how we see things. I’ve been doing my best to stay positive but things keep happening to make that difficult. Just a couple of days ago my eldest uncle passed away and this led me to again seeing the importance of family closeness and support for each other. Even sometimes when you mentally prepare for something the reality of it can still knock you for six. Honestly, I don’t know where I would be if I didn’t have people in my life who look out for me and show me that level of love and care. My new mission in life is fast becoming to be a support for others as best I can.

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The aim is to encourage people everywhere to be confident, positive, motivating forces in their own lives. In a recent post I published on instagram I wrote “You would be surprised how many people are down, lonely and hurting in some way. The little things you can do for someone can mean more to them than you could possible know! A simple compliment or a smile can be all a person needs so be sure to spread your kindness as much as you can!” I guess you could say I have experience with dealing with negativity and can first hand speak on how you can be a blessing to someone without even really trying.

A plus size woman wearing a black love slogan sweater, a-line midi skirt and satin blue trainersA plus size woman smiling wearing a black love slogan sweater, a-line midi skirt and satin blue trainers

We should treat people the way we wish to be treated, this is something I truly believe. A simple act of kindness to someone can make the world of difference and is a great way of spreading the love!

Check out my recent review of a vintage swing dress my Rose Gal.

A plus size woman smiling wearing a black love slogan sweater
*The top and skirt are gifted items
Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and do it with a smile!

Sequins And Sparkles

A plus size woman smiling wearing a pink sequin dress, wet look leggings and open toe nude heels

So the party season has well and truly begun! Work events are taking place, people are getting into the Christmas spirit and sparkles are starting to appear everywhere. I have a thing for sequins and have always enjoyed wearing them in the late part of the year. I really think that no matter what, every woman likes to feel glamorous from time to time. There are so many fun fabrics with gorgeous rich colours this season. I’m enjoying pinks and blush tones which is why this Madeline rose gold sequin t-shirt dress from In The Style Curve is going to making an appearance at an event i’ll be attending this year.

A plus size woman wearing a pink sequin dress, wet look leggings and open toe nude heelsA plus size woman wearing a pink sequin dress, wet look leggings and open toe nude heels

I have a thing for wearing bold prints and bright colours, especially in the winter months. What I love about this item is that it’s extremely comfortable, flattering and sexy. The freshness of the rose gold will stand out and look gorgeous at a Christmas party and this one can be worn as a single item or paired with cute tights or pants. There are many ways sequins can be worn and i’m a woman who isn’t afraid to wear them, in fact I love it!

A plus size woman smiling wearing a pink sequin dress, wet look leggings and open toe nude heelsA plus size woman smiling wearing a pink sequin dress, wet look leggings and open toe nude heels

This is the time of year when we all wanna look our best. Cameras are flashing capturing magic memories, glitz and glamour is everywhere… It’s also cuffing season so there is ample opportunity to meet someone special and even get them under the mistletoe. What better way is there to stand out than to walk into the room sparkling?! When I wear an item full of sequins I like to let the clothes do the talking for me. I selected this dress in size 24. It has a perfect fit for your dress size and plenty of stretch for those of us with boobs, bums and tums that need to be accounted for.

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Colour coordination is the name of my style game! Accessorising the outfit was easy to be honest. I selected a Faux leather clutch in blush colour that perfectly complimented the dress. Wet look leggings were a must with this outfit. Nude open toe heels were my shoe of choice as I wanted a simple but cute footwear option. I tied my hair in a cute top knot style and pulled on my large hoop earrings to finish off my idea of the perfect casual chic party outfit. Many jacket styles could be worn to battle the chill in the air if you’re out and about in a dress like this also.

A plus size woman wearing a pink sequin dress, wet look leggings and open toe nude heelsA plus size woman smiling wearing a pink sequin dress, wet look leggings and open toe nude heels

What will you be wearing this party season? Sequins, velvets and warm rich colours can brighten up your look and give you that little something extra to really make a great impression when you walk in the room. In The Style Curve have some fab selections so be sure to take a look! They’re going to be having some really hot discounts this Black Friday too!

A plus size woman smiling wearing a pink sequin dress
*This dress is a gifted outfit
Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and do it with a smile!

General Sexy!

a plus size woman wearing an oversized camouflage jacket, t-shirt dress, ray-ban sunglasses and over the knee black heeled boots

So this season we are starting to see a variety of prints, colours and fabrics coming in for the winter. One print that is huge at the moment and has been for the past few weeks is of course camouflage! I have been really enjoying the options out there. Green and khaki prints are currently available everywhere and I’ve been having a good time styling them in my own way. In The Style Curve recently sent me their Sarah Ashcroft oversized jacket that makes me feel confident and full of attitude, a total boss chick. I recently wore this one in a look that made me feel like a sexy General!

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When I think of camouflage, like most people thoughts of the military come to mind. The print that is synonymous with soldiers all over the world has been extremely popular in casual fashion for decades. Men and women have been able to incorporate this into their wardrobe in a variety of different ways. I personally started wearing camouflage not that long ago. I found that when it came to plus size fashion we were limited to what was out there and very few options suited my personal style.

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The selection of options available for plus size and curvy women nowadays are sexy, funky, trendy and most of all comfortable. This jacket has some really fun distressed and edgy details with an oversized fit. Deep pockets, leather trim and bright yellow strip across the shoulders make this a really easy item to incorporate into many looks. I have this one in size 22/24 and for an oversized item it’s definitely true to size.

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When I took these photos I decided to really hone in on the sexy General thing. Aviator sunglasses are one of my favourite styles and so I pulled on a pair of vintage Ray-Bans. As I like to colour coordinate what I wear I went for a black t-shirt dress, fish net tights, over the knee boots and my favourite shade of red lipstick! I really enjoyed this outfit. This look made me channel my inner boss bitch, sassy attitude and playful side.

A plus size woman wearing an oversized camouflage jacket, t-shirt dress, ray-ban sunglasses and over the knee black heeled bootsA plus size woman wearing an oversized camouflage jacket, t-shirt dress and over the knee black heeled boots

It’s funny how certain clothing items can really affect your mood. In my opinion I find that fashion is a great way to purposefully channel an attitude or a vibe when you want to. If you’re in a mood where you really need to feel confident and in charge, clothing can make this happen. When i’m feeling bad or down I always go for that dress, lipstick or pair of shoes that makes me look and feel good. I guess that camouflage makes me feel extremely confident because I always feel fabulous when I have it on.

A plus size woman smiling wearing an oversized camouflage jacket, t-shirt dress and over the knee black heeled bootsA plus size woman smiling wearing an oversized camouflage jacket, t-shirt dress, ray-ban sunglasses and over the knee black heeled boots

This is a jacket that has fast become one of my go-to items. I have worn this one with jeans, sweaters, leggings and skirts. Multipurpose items are always welcome in my wardrobe because they can be so versatile. We all have those items that can only be worn with that one pair of shoes or accessories… I really enjoy switching things up when I can. In The style Curve have a wide variety of items that can be worn in different ways. They really know how to come up with fun oversized styles. I recently reviewed one of their sweater  dresses that is still available on the site, check it out here.

a plus size woman smiling wearing an oversized camouflage jacket
*This is a gifted jacket
Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and do it with a smile!

Getting Shady In Winter Warmers

a plus size woman smiling wearing an off the shoulder sweater, white leggings and black heeled ankle boots

November has well and truly arrived. It is officially cold and so that means that it’s time for us to start wrapping up and battling the elements! I was recently sent some fab clothes from Yours Clothing just in time for the colder season. I have some fun casual items that can work with a variety of outfits including warm knitwear. This is the time of year when there are 3000 things to do and not enough hours in the day. You’ll find yourself running around to work events, parties, running errands etc. When things get hectic we all like to be comfortable but I still like to look good in the process.

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Sweaters these days have really come a long way. We used to wear items like this purely for comfort and warmth. Now we are lucky enough to have some cute, fun even sexy options. I read somewhere that the sexiest part of a woman’s body is the decolletage so it’s nice to have the shoulders and collar bone exposed. A small amount of flesh revealed can be sexy in a modest way. I really love this sweater from the Limited collection. The swooping off the shoulder neckline, thick fabric and distressed element adds some edge to a simple item. This makes for a really fun basic item that will work with a variety of clothing items for many looks. I picked this up in a size 24.

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Leggings, every woman has a pair, every woman likes these for easy and comfortable fashion. I tend to gravitate towards wet look leggings and I have about 9 pairs to be honest with you lol. I had never worn a pair of white ones before but I figured as I wear white jeans why not get a pair of white leggings? I chose this pair in a size 26. I find that with leggings it’s better to up-size. When you have a large bum and a sizeable belly like I do you don’t want the fabric to stretch so much that it gets see-through. This pair is high waisted and full of stretch. And of course black or white items work with most looks.

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I like many women love wearing a cute pair of heels. This is the time of year when one might wanna slip on a pair of heels but the cold chill in the air can make that an off putting prospect. I like ankle boots as they provide that sexiness to an outfit but can be worn with thermal tights, socks etc. This pair has a nice height, are really comfortable and work with pretty much anything you wanna pair them with. There is a flexi-sole making this an easy pair to walk in too.

I’m a woman who’s always on the go so I need a bag of some kind to carry my makeup, money, phone, keys etc. I wanted something with a little splash of colour and what better way for me than to pick something blue?! This small quilted backpack is really practical and is an item I can wear with items in all seasons due to the fresh colour. It comes in one size and will work for anyone who needs to carry more than the essentials with them.

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So there are many ways to be fun and casual while the weather changes. I have several items from yours that are great to wrap up in. Check out my post featuring camouflage prints and khaki colours. If you are looking for some great knitwear basics or you want to try a monochrome look of your own check them out here!

a plus size woman smiling wearing an off the shoulder sweater
*This is a gifted outfit
Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and do it with a smile!

Having Fashion Fun With Binky

A plus size woman smiling wearing an oversized sweater dress and knee high boots

Reality TV is massive in today’s world. We see stars from various shows fronting many campaigns for apparel, beauty products and a variety of other items. I’m not into many shows of this nature but as a Londoner, Made In Chelsea has been my guilty pleasure for the past few years. The beautifully shot scenery of my home town and dramatic stories have kept myself and many other viewers hooked! One of the show’s longest running characters, who happens to be stunningly beautiful and stylish is Alexandra Felstead aka Binky. For quite a while now Binky has teamed up with a brand I love In The Style for some fun and fresh collections. I really love the casual and edgy feel of the items and I was happy to see that many items from the range are available in their Curve collection. This oversized sweater dress being one of them.

A plus size woman wearing an oversized sweater dress and knee high bootsA plus size woman wearing an oversized sweater dress and knee high boots

Summer in the UK this year was minimal. It’s fair to say that we didn’t have much of a season and so transitional looks are how I’m making the most of my wardrobe. I really like how simple this dress is whilst still having some colour and a bit of character. I should note that when it comes to In The Style Curve items I tend to wear sizes 22 and 24. With this dress I opted for a size 28 as I really wanted it to fit in an oversized way. It’s no secret that I have a large bust, big bum and a tummy. To get the desired look I decided to up-size, I’d say it’s a true to size item more than oversized.

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I really enjoy wearing dresses that can be paired with others or worn on their own. I thought about wearing this one with some wet look leggings but decided against it. What girl doesn’t love a good pair of knee high leather boots? I pulled on some fun fish net tights and opted for my Jilsen Denise boots from Wide Calf Boot Store. Ladies like myself often struggle to find good quality boots to fit our calves. I can highly recommend this brand if you’re looking for a variety of style options this season. In my case I like a pair of knee high black boots for autumn and winter as they work with so many outfits.

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I have to say I really love the range of clothing items in Binky’s range. It’s really nice to see that so many of the items in the main range are available in plus size too. This dress in particular makes me feel really sexy when wearing it even though it’s essentially an oversized sweater. The length is just right for a short dress and doesn’t hitch up high over my bum. The item makes for a fun casual piece that can easily be dressed up or down. The floral embroidered sleeves are really fun and the cute detail brings some rich colour to a black piece. I even found the perfect lippy to match the flowers, Orange Danger shade 883 from Maybelline.

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I decided to wear this in a casual way but it could easily be dressed up with some cute stiletto heels, fun accessories and bright makeup. No doubt there will be more edgy and fun items to come from Binky and In the Style in the near future and I can’t wait to see them! Check out the other items in the current collection from In The Style Curve, rich colours, fun patterns and prints and sassy cuts are available. It’s definitely worth taking a look as there is something for everyone.

Check out my review of the Karina Dress which is still available.

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Stay tuned here on the blog as I’ll be sharing more items from the brand here on the blog very soon!

Have fun with your look this season and don’t ditch those summer items just yet. You may be able to include them in a fun transitional look. If you are wanting something a little warmer you should definitely try out a sweater dress. Who would have thought that a sweater with a little extra length could be so fun and sexy to wear?!

A plus size woman smiling wearing an oversized sweater dress

*Dress And Boots Are Gifted Items
Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and do it with a smile!

Spa Sessions And Sensational Spices

Don’t you just love it when you get an email or phone call where you are presented with an amazing opportunity? I was asked recently by The Entertainer if I would like to spend a day with Hanna at a luxurious spa followed by a slap up dinner! Some of you may have seen that I joined their squad a few months ago and; I have since been lucky enough to try out and experience many of the fun attractions, restaurants and amenities they have to offer right here in London.

Life has a way of knocking the wind out of your sails, putting you under stress and pressure. Sometimes things can get a little on top of you and you just need some rest and relaxation. I recently have been under a lot of stress in my working life and I tend to carry it all in my back and shoulders. You can only imagine my excitement when I was invited to visit the amazing Spa Verta, located in Battersea right by the river Thames. I cannot tell you this could not have come at a better time for me! The mere thought of getting a quiet relaxing day with one of my best friends wasn’t something I could pass up…

Hanna and I were made to feel like VIPs on arrival, we were given some lovely robes and slippers to change into and, a lovely selection of teas and coffees to enjoy. Within about 20 minutes we were taken into a beautifully decorated, dimly lit, aromatic, relaxation room with soft loungers while we waited for our individual massage therapists to come and collect us for our treatments. I walked in full of tension in my back and knots in my shoulders. The minute I laid down on the massage table I could have fallen asleep, the music was really comforting and relaxing, so much so that I want to try and get a copy of it on my next visit. A series of oils from Espa were used during the treatment and I have to say my skin was left feeling baby soft and smelling like heaven, again more products I want to get hold of during my next visit lol. In a short space of time I was left feeling totally relaxed and tension free.

*Photos Courtesy Of Spa Verta

Our treatments were followed by some time spent in the incredible hydro pool. I could have stayed in that water for hours! With a choice of 3 different saunas we were able to really work on any additional tension that we may have had. First we spent some time in the UV sauna, followed by the steam room and then the traditional sauna. You cannot imagine how amazing my hair felt after all that steam! We both had the most amazing time and will be sure to book another session in there soon.

Following on from a peaceful day we headed over to The Red Fort and Zeena bar in Soho, a sexy, swanky spot where many celebrities frequent. I will say I love Indian food and have been a little cocky in my time about what’s available. As a vegetarian I have always loved this cuisine but the food was served in a very decorative fashion and was surprisingly light in flavour. I started with the Hara Kebab, a gorgeous spinach and fenugreek patties lightly filled with cheddar and onion. I then had some saffron and cumin rice with some sauteed spinach, chilli, garlic and onion for my mains and finished off the meal with some gorgeous home made ice cream. Of course Hanna and I enjoyed some South African white wine with dinner! I have to say we had a really lovely time here.

I would highly recommend these places for a nice day out with your significant other, a fun day with friends or a nice treat for your mum. If you’re ever in the big city of London you definitely will want to check out the The Entertainer for the current deals and offerings for a fun day or night out!

Remember whatever you do, feel fabulous in it and do it with a smile!

Loving The Skin You’re In

Photography By Studio 52

It’s funny how some people think that they know all that there is to know about a person just from meeting them once or from the persona they portray. I often have people writing to me or telling me in person how confident I seem and they ask me what things they can do to let their guard down and just feel comfortable in their skin. To be totally honest with you I don’t think there is a magic formula or series of steps one can take to achieve a feeling of confidence. I always refer to my own confidence as a journey, I have my good and my bad days just like everyone else but in my case I think a combination of different things has all contributed to my being the way that I am.

My family is massive! I have tons of family members on both sides and a bunch of people who may not carry the same blood line as me but they are very much a part of the bunch also. Being around so many people who have large bold personalities can make it a challenge for some to find their own way and stand out in a positive light. Many of my friends have come from situations where they found it hard to find their voice in a sense. In my case my childhood was filled with my family, friends and of course many tumultuous times. As many of my readers know I was severely bullied in school from the age of 4-18 and always struggled with fitting in and being comfortable. My weight has always been with me despite countless diets, exercise regimes and emotional headaches. I always had a constant war going on in my head because I had the confidence of a raging bull when it came to taking the stage and entertaining people whether that be singing my heart out, acting, public speaking or otherwise. The thing is, knowing that your talent shines bright is one thing but it can easily be diminished when you’re not comfortable in your own skin…

For me I had to go through many situations and experiences with people all over to realise that I get my confidence from truly knowing who I am, what I stand for and having the courage to stand by whatever it is that I believe in. I have never been the quiet silent type unable to express myself and I know already that I’m not the sort of woman who will ever become a shrinking violet. I stand high on my morals, my faith and my relationships with the people who matter most to me in my life. All of these things have allowed me to feel confident. I guess it’s that fight of flight sort of thing; you can make a decision to panic which more often than not does nothing and can exacerbate a situation or you can stop, pull yourself together and do the best you can in a situation. I tend to be someone who takes the latter option and with this my self confidence when it comes to my self image has started to get the message.

When I was 25 years old I came to the realisation that I love who I am as a person and a woman. I figured although I had a lot to learn and a lot of growing up to do I couldn’t continue to spend another day hating the way that I looked. I had pretty much spent a quarter of a century beating myself up for not looking like other women and I eventually realised that I’m not meant to be like anyone else. I need to be the best Mayah that I can possibly be and that instead of looking at my glass as half empty I needed to look at it as half full, focus on all the things I love about myself and build on those; eventually overshadowing the doubts I had in my own mind.

Confidence isn’t something that I feel you can buy through any sort of beauty product or clothing item. These are things that can help enhance what may already be hiding beneath the surface. I think the key is learning to love parts of yourself that you previously may have hated. Take my hair for example, I have always had a constant war with my hair and when I finally realised that it is the way it is, I learned to find things about it that I enjoy and I build on those. I think the same can be said in other aspects of who you are. If you love to be creative then surround yourself around creative people who will uplift and inspire you to do the same for yourself. If you want to be more introspective then find ways to channel that energy in a positive light and the rest will follow. The old saying can also be true “fake it until you make it” it worked for me on many occasions. I think basically it’s a trial and error sort of thing and is a process that takes time. I have those days when I look in the mirror and think ewww I look hideous but I try and just take it for what it is, a bad day and I keep pushing on. What I’m saying is that when you’re having a down day try and focus on the aspects that you love about yourself and don’t feed into that negative energy. Eventually the paradigm of your thoughts will change.

Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and wear it with a smile!

Embracing My Blackness

*Photography By Studio52 Clothing From Evans Clothing, Live Unlimited And Hotter Shoes

It seems that the entire planet is talking about America at the moment. They have just elected the new president, enjoyed the Superbowl Halftime show and black history month is in full swing. I’ve been watching a lot of American TV shows and news postings lately and even though the celebration of black history month doesn’t come to the UK until October, it got me thinking about the icons who have inspired me, important people in my family and of course my own blackness…

I come from a multi racial family as many of my readers know. My mother is half Irish and Trinidadian and my father is Jamaican. In both sides of my family the Caribbean influences have hints of Indian and Chinese. Having said all of that people are often interested to know where my family are from and having been exposed to all sides of my culture I have always identified as a mixed race person. I personally find that embracing a part of myself doesn’t have to mean ignoring the other and I try to merge the different areas of my background into the various areas as life such as my diet, the music I create and listen to and of course when it comes to my looks to name a few.

For the past few months I have been wearing my hair natural and it has been an interesting journey. I had no idea how much work and upkeep is required in taking care of my hair or how I would be perceived with the different styles I might wear. I’m still trying to get used to it to be honest with you and at times I find myself frustrated. I am finding that the most supportive people around me on my hair journey actually happen to be my white friends. I had expected in all truth that I would be bombarded with people asking questions about my hair and wanting to touch it out of a somewhat negative interest but, I was pleasantly surprised in that area and was received with positivity and enthusiasm. My friends seem to really love the “REAL” part of me and think that I should take my look to the next level with more experimental hair styles. In contrast to this I have found that some of my own family members have had some minor issues with my hair and how I have chosen to style it on occasion. I have been teased quite a lot recently and given the nickname Harriet Tubman. What’s awkward for me is that this has been given to me in a negative sense. I guess wearing my twists with scarfs or bandanas reminds some people of the kind of images we see from times past or what we see from documents surrounding slavery or something. In truth I am slightly saddened by this for several reasons. For one thing I have a lot to learn when it comes to taking care of my 4c hair but I find that using a woman like Ms Tubman as an insult is insane! For one thing she was a humanitarian, abolitionist, american spy and armed scout during the civil war, what an incredible women with an amazing legacy.

I will always enjoy a variety of different hair styles, wigs, natural and styles in between. One thing that is apparent though is that a black or brown woman wearing her hair natural to some people looks like a rebellious action or a political statement. I never would have thought that sporting the very hair that grows from my scalp would be viewed in such a way. The thing is, I will continue to use these situations as a talking point to raise awareness to things. Many of my friends and even some family members had no idea how time consuming, expensive and difficult wearing natural hair could be until they were witness to what I go through. Washing your hair can take between 3-5 hours sometimes, luckily stylists advise that women with hair like mine only wash their hair every 1-2 weeks!

I am enjoying embracing myself and learning more about influential and special people who play a huge role in black history. As a Londoner I can honestly say that what is taught in schools about black history is so minimal and it’s a shame because there are so many amazing things that can be shared. I don’t think of myself as a particularly political person but I do have a big opinion and the readiness to share it if asked or if the moment requires it.

*Photography By Studio52 Clothing From Evans Clothing And Live Unlimited

I simply think that with what’s going on in America at the moment and to a degree here in the UK; that it’s important for everyone in the world regardless of their ethnicity or their experience to speak out and share their stories. I really believe that the only way barriers are broken down, people come together and change is a possibility is through talking and sharing. People don’t understand or they can be fearful or what’s new or different and I find that even something as simple as one’s hair can be an interesting place to start and get the dialogue going. These are the things that brought for the civil rights movement, feminist movement and spawned the welcoming change to the LGBTQ community all of the world. We all have rights, we all want acceptance and love and I just think that people really need to listen to that old saying our parents told all of us “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all”. The thing is we have become able to experience different genres of music, various styles of cuisine and even adopt customs from our brothers and sisters. I really think a lot has been achieved but  we need to take the time to look at the topic of skin colour and the areas around it, otherwise we stand still or even worse move backwards in our way of thinking.

I may see myself as a woman of mixed race but I have always embraced areas of my blackness and I’m proud that I can do more of this through something as small as wearing my hair the way God intended for me to have it!

Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and wear it with a smile!

Relaxed Summer Style – An Evans Clothing Review

*All Items Worn Have Been Gifted

Summer is drawing to a close and we are being treated to the odd day of sunshine. As Autumn is starting to creep in we are in one of those transitional periods when selecting items for our wardrobe can get a little tricky. I am currently still trying to battle some of my former confidence issues and with that I aim to continue to push myself out of my comfort zone, until things get comfortable for me that is. Many of you who are familiar with my blog will know that I don’t like showing off my upper arms. My biceps have always been one of my problem areas and I have tried to pick out clothes to force me to go bare armed. I find that when I do things to push myself in a different direction, I tend to end up liking the way that part of my body looks.


Hanna and I recently took a trip to Evans in London’s Marble Arch to check out the current collections and select a few items for review. I saw this emerald green tunic from Live Unlimited and really wanted to try it out. The thickness of the shoulders and the cut of the garment is one that I knew would flatter my shape really nicely. The included pockets are a bonus too as they are deep enough to store your phone, purse and your lipstick! I’m wearing this in a size size 24.

Green isn’t a colour that I have bought a lot of over the years. I really like how certain shades of green bring out the golden tones in my complexion but I haven’t been lucky enough to find that many items I like. I really enjoy wearing this tunic as it’s comfortable, spacious and a great length. I thought it would be nice to pair this one with a pair of wide leg trousers for a relaxed summer look. I opted for this pair of white, wide legged linen trousers, I’m wearing these in a size 24. I love the lightness and the easiness of these 2 items worn together. For a really comfortable and simple look that is really nice in this transitional period, these items work really well together. The richness of the green really makes the white pop.

Tackling a bad hair day I opted for my black fringed hair scarf. I love having hair-wear that works with pretty much everything in my wardrobe, and so I have been collecting bandanas and scarves for several years now.

To finish off the outfit I pulled out my nude patent open toe heels. I think everyone woman should own a pair of nude heels as they work with so many colours and can offset a look in a different way to classic black shoes.

I love my silver jewellery it’s no secret that’s in my preferred shade when it comes to accessories. I really like the contrast between my skin tone and the sparkly silver. My signature hoops were a must and were complimented nicely by my caged stone necklace, this one is currently available from the Dorothy Perkins website in a rose gold. You may still find the silver version in selected stores however. Finished off with this square cuff bangle from Topshop and my outfit was just as I wanted it.


I kept my makeup to it’s usual style and added a sparkly pink lipgloss from Rimmel. I opted for a deep green silk finish polish from Barry M on my nails. I have recently become obsessed with nail polish and have racked up quite a collection! More will be revealed soon on the blog…

So you know what I always say, aim to have clothes that are suitable for all occasions and moods. Separates can make this idea easier to achieve. I find that with separate items I can wear some things that were meant for the previous season into the next one, if matched with something carefully. I dress to my mood and comfort level so although I sometimes love to wear a fitted outfit or have my cleavage on show, there are times when I just like to keep it simple with a little something extra for style.

Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and wear it with a smile!

We Are The They, And We’re Not Going Away!

So the media has been going crazy the past few weeks with stories about body image, fashion and everything else surrounding us and how we are expected to look. This week there has been a huge focus on plus size fashion and the people involved in the industry. With talk about the term “Plus Size” what it means, how we feel about it and if we should keep it. The campaign #DropThePlus was first seen on Instagram and has been met with mixed responses from the public. Some feel that in order to embrace all women we should blur the lines and eradicate the categories we are put in due to our dress size. I personally like the term plus size. I feel that we are taking terms that were previously used to push insults at us and owning them. Fat people are no longer ashamed of the dreaded F word and have been able to form a worldwide community through the Plus Size label. Having said that I do think that Fashion and beauty is something that everyone should be entitled to regardless of their shape, size, age, race, and everything else in-between.

The recently aired documentary Plus Size Wars, focused on the evolution of fashion for people like myself and the changes the industry has faced. We saw a glimpse of how modelling agencies are now adopting a supply in demand approach in regards to who they have on their books. Men and women the world over have tapped into a new way of experiencing fashion and that in my opinion has been 100% down to the internet. Youtube videos, fashion blogs and Instagram pages have opened the eyes of people out there and are making them more aware of their choices in fashion and ways of buying it. People like the stunning Tess Holliday aka Tess Munster have really helped to changed the game, being that she is the polar opposite to what the agencies deemed acceptable for an aspiring model. Some of my friends and fellow bloggers were also involved in the channel 4 documentary and did an amazing job in representing us. The thoughts and feelings of plus size women were very well portrayed and the hour long programme did a good job in showing us all in a positive light.

As expected when a show like this airs there will be comments and criticism to follow. With the internet everyone has an open channel to voice their opinion to the world, and in doing the same we see articles reach the print and television media. Loose Women host Jamelia has recently put herself in hot water when she very rudely expressed her opinion about people like myself. She feels that people above and bellow a certain dress size should be ostracised and made to feel ashamed by having to buy our clothes in specialist stores. Now I know that these days we are being bombarded with news about health related issues and fitness information but in the mix of all of that we have also been brainwashed with a very rigid and narrow minded view of what is beautiful. We see celebrities getting nipped and tucked every day and are constantly shown images of women with the perfect bikini body. I won’t bang on about how I feel about that because I want to make it very clear that in this post I am speaking as a fat woman and for fat women.

I don’t think it’s right for people who perhaps have never had a weight problem to speak on issues relating to the subject. We are people and that alone should let people know that most things are not what they seem and are more complicated that what you can see on the surface. You can’t always see if someone suffers from a medical condition, mental illness is also something that isn’t always visible but because someone like me has a physical issue that you can see people feel as though they can do more than pass comments, they feel as though they can be rude and insulting!

Let me make this clear to Jamelia and anyone else who shares in her opinion, we are not a group of aliens to be described as “they” we are people and we have an opinion and feelings of our own! My being a confident fat woman who blogs about fashion and beauty in no way makes me an advocate for obesity. I hate the term “promoting obesity” as it’s not only stupid, it’s ludicrous! First of all, fat people are constantly shunned by people for our size, we are discriminated against, laughed at and have to deal with comments about our appearance from strangers 365 days a year! Why would we promote something that brings us headache and grief as if it’s a good thing? Whoever would think that is actually pretty thick if you ask me. I’ll be honest here we can’t win. If we work out and exercise people laugh at us for trying to be healthy and if we are seen eating anything at all even a salad people look at you as though you have just grown 5 heads! I, like many people out there have recently had a change in mind set. It took me more than 2 decades to come to the realisation that I had been hating myself and the way that I looked due to other people’s ignorance! Almost every over weight person has had to deal with people patronising and taking the mick out out of them at some point and with that 2 things can happen. Some people lose their self esteem and crumble under the pressure and others come up fighting with a stronger and more resilient attitude to things. I like many plus size people have heard all of the insults possible, have developed defence mechanisms and have reached a place where I simply don’t have the care to fight about something so unimportant, other people’s opinions of me.

Having nice clothing available as a fat person is amazing. I can honestly say that through the options that have become available to us we have been able to embrace sides of our personality that for some have previously been hidden. When all you have to wear is ill fitting clothes that are dowdy and often not age appropriate you don’t really have a way to express your sense of style and have to make adaptations where possible. Since being able to wear the fashions I had admired on other women my confidence has soared. I am now able to look in the mirror and actually like the reflection that looks back at me. When you feel confident the way you look at yourself changes, I now take more pride in my appearance, and that has extended to my making healthier lifestyle choices. People who over eat often do so as a coping mechanism the same way that others turn to drugs and alcohol. To constantly insult and break a person down who is like this, is literally handing them the tub of ice cream and the spoon to eat it with! The problem goes beyond not knowing how to control your portions or getting more excise in. In order to fix what you think is a problem you need to understand it better. Some people are fat because they over eat and some aren’t. Some large people want to lose weight and some are happy as they are, yes I said it, happy as they are! The thing is if we are trying to change something in ourselves or carry on as we are we should be able to look good whilst doing so. I know it may surprise some people out there but we have families, friends, partners, jobs and social lives too. We need to be able to wear clothes appropriate for the occasion just as you can. When you say “they” I am one of the people you are talking about!

Big people know all of the same health statistics as you so to bleat on about it isn’t telling us something we don’t already know. I hear all the time about how we are a drain on the resources and on taxes. Do you not think we have jobs or pay tax? We do all of the same things you do just in a larger body suit. I am not ashamed of how I look and if my being confident in myself helps at least 1 other fat person out there then I can carry on smiling and doing what I need to do for myself. News flash there has always been fat people in the world and there always will be. Someone will always be battling some sort of weight problem somewhere. While all of this is going on they have every right to make the best of what they have and enjoy their lives in the clothes they want to wear!

Last night the plus size community clubbed together to spread the message that “We Are The They” we look good, feel good and will do our thing as best we can! You may not like the way that we look but remember something, just like anything people will change if they want to and they won’t if they don’t. Many people already think we look bad so what would you rather we wear smart and stylish clothes or stuff ourselves into things that are ill fitting and make us look a complete mess? We are all going through things and we need to be more understanding of each other, after all the saying is true ‘beauty is in the eye of the beholder’.

Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and wear it with a smile!