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Today I Choose Joy

A plus size woman smiling wearing a baby pink trench coat, black skinny jeans, Celine Audrey sunglasses, black boots and silver faux leather backpack

It’s funny, sometimes the energy you put out there can really start a new topic of discussion. I have had countless people contact me recently all speaking on the positivity I display. Many people find it to be refreshing and others have asked me ‘Mayah what makes you so happy?’ In all honesty, I choose to be happy. The more time I spend navigating this world the more I see that joy and happiness are things that don’t happen to you. These are things that you grab by the hands and take for yourself.

A plus size woman smiling wearing a baby pink trench coat, black skinny jeans, grey joy slogan t-shirt, black boots and silver faux leather backpackA plus size woman smiling wearing a baby pink trench coat, black skinny jeans, Celine Audrey sunglasses, black boots and silver faux leather backpack

My story is one full of roller coaster situations with twists and turns. My childhood and teen years saw me go through quite traumatic bullying. As a result, I ended up making poor choices, entering bad relationships and not taking care of myself. I had to reach a place where it was important for me to “check myself”. I guess you could say I learned that in order to get to a place of joy I had to start with myself…

A plus size woman smiling wearing a baby pink trench coat, black skinny jeans, black boots and silver faux leather backpackA plus size woman smiling with her eyes closedA plus size woman wearing a baby pink trench coat, black skinny jeans and black boots

Several years ago my life led me to a place where I took my relationship with God to a deeper place and I decided to get baptised. I had been contemplating doing so for a while but I guess all things happen in the correct timing. People of faith often speak on joy as though it’s something only reserved for believers. I don’t agree with that statement. I think we all have a right to happiness, light and love but I do know from personal experience that we have to make it happen. People tend to fall into the trap of thinking that one day they will wake up and everything in their life will be perfect. The thing is this; if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got! I think a paradigm shift and taking the steps to make things happen is the key.

A plus size woman smiling wearing a baby pink trench coat, black skinny jeans, grey joy slogan t-shirt and silver faux leather backpack A plus size woman smiling wearing a baby pink trench coat, black skinny jeans, black boots and silver faux leather backpack

I decided to start enjoying how I look, surrounding myself with like minded and positive people among other things. Talking about what I wanted in life was a pointless exercise. Deciding to just get on with things and focus on what makes me happy and what I’m good at made the difference. The easy thing is to focus on the things we’re bad at. That weight we’ve gained, our singleness, lack of money we have… I could go on really. My point is that we spend too much time and energy thinking about what’s wrong with our situations. When you switch your thought patterns to focus on the positive everything changes. You’ll be surprised at how happy you actually are! Don’t get me wrong you may not be where you want to be but, you will have made some strides forward!

black boots and silver faux leather backpackA plus size woman smiling wearing hoop earringsA plus size woman smiling wearing a baby pink trench coat and Celine Audrey sunglasses

When I saw this slogan t-shirt from Zizzi at Navabi I knew I had to have it. This one phrase describes my current state of mind and place in life. ‘TODAY I CHOOSE JOY!’ In other words, I’m making the choice to be happy. I like everyone else have my bad days but I thought i’m gonna make a statement by wearing the words and not just a smile! When putting this look together I wanted to pair the grey tee with a simple pair of black jeans. I selected my supper skinny stretch jeans from Lane Bryant. Yours Clothing recently sent me these fab ankle boots so they were an easy inclusion.

A plus size woman smiling wearing a baby pink trench coat and grey joy slogan t-shirtA plus size woman smiling wearing a baby pink trench coat and Celine Audrey sunglassesA plus size woman smiling wearing a baby pink trench coat, black skinny jeans, grey joy slogan t-shirt, black boots, holding a silver faux leather backpack

Finishing things off I decided to add a touch of freshness with this baby pink trench coat from Evans. I thought it would be cool to wear some accessories. Hanna let me borrow her Celine Audrey sunglasses for some added glam. Tobi recently sent me some fun new things which I wanted to include with this look. I’m pretty sure that by now when people think of my style hoop earrings come to mind. With that being said you can see why I wanted this pair of in the loop hoops! Adding more silver I selected the faux leather backpack.

Aside from what i’m wearing, ultimately the key is to do the things that make you happy. It might the clothes you wear that make you smile, the people you’re with or what you do.

A plus size woman smiling wearing a baby pink trench coat and grey joy slogan t-shirt
Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and do it with a smile! 

Beat It 35

A plus size woman smiling wearing a Michael Jackson beat it t-shirt, red faux leather zip front mini skirt, black duster jacket, silver metallic Chelsea boots and red bandana

When it comes to music there isn’t a person alive who doesn’t know and love the works of Michael Jackson. I am one of the rare few who would loudly and proudly describe myself as a die hard fan. Thriller is still the largest selling album of all time. With that being said me and the guys are celebrating 35 years of the pop rock classic Beat It. Unfortunately I wasn’t born when the track came out but I have grown up listening to this classic song and not once has it ever felt old!

A plus size woman wearing a Michael Jackson beat it t-shirt, red faux leather zip front mini skirt, black duster jacket, silver metallic Chelsea boots and red bandanaA plus size woman smiling wearing a Michael Jackson beat it t-shirt, red faux leather zip front mini skirt, black duster jacket, silver metallic Chelsea boots, red bandana and red lips bag

When I think of MJ’s Beat It so many things come to mind. The track destroyed boundaries all over and made Michael one of the first artists to be loved and embraced by music lovers of all races and backgrounds. Making him a world shaker and game changer on his own. It’s fair to say that Michael pretty much owned the 80s! Even though rock music was very much a white American genre back in the day, MJ was one of the pioneers to change all of that. The fierce commercial track with world famous guitar solo by Eddie Van Halen changed the game. People of all ages still have a phenomenal time playing air guitar and screaming out the catchy chorus.

A plus size woman smiling wearing a Michael Jackson beat it t-shirt, red faux leather zip front mini skirt, black duster jacket and red bandanaA plus size woman wearing a Michael Jackson beat it t-shirt, red faux leather zip front mini skirt, black duster jacket, silver metallic Chelsea boots and red bandana

Beat it just so happens to be one of the first choreographed dance routines that fans worldwide can all do! I myself have been known to let loose when the song plays out in public. Truth be told, you really don’t care when the music is that good! I know I’m not the only one who also connects the song with the red leather zipper jacket! No one on the planet is able to wear a similar jacket without Michael Jackson and “beat it” being mentioned.

A plus size woman smiling wearing a Michael Jackson beat it t-shirt, red faux leather zip front mini skirt, black duster jacket, silver metallic Chelsea boots, red bandana and red lips bagA plus size woman wearing a Michael Jackson beat it t-shirt, red faux leather zip front mini skirt, and black duster jacketA plus size woman smiling wearing a Michael Jackson beat it t-shirt, red faux leather zip front mini skirt, black duster jacket, silver metallic Chelsea boots and red bandana

With that being said you can understand why I decided to style this look the way that I have. King-Of-Shop is something that myself and the boys are extremely proud of. The world’s most successful and talked about MJ merchandise and apparel online store. We are known for only selling official MJ merchandise and fine collectables. Beat It is also heavily featured on the site at the moment and this t-shirt is one of the many available styles so be sure to check us out!

A plus size woman wearing a Michael Jackson beat it t-shirt, red faux leather zip front mini skirt, black duster jacket, silver metallic Chelsea boots, red bandana and red lips bagA plus size woman smiling wearing a Michael Jackson beat it t-shirt, red faux leather zip front mini skirt, black duster jacket, silver metallic Chelsea boots, red bandana and red lips bag

I was recently sent the most amazing red faux leather zip front mini skirt from In The Style Curve. I knew that it would be perfect with this t-shirt and the Beat It theme. The funky zips remind me of those on the jacket. Scarlet red and vibrant faux leather is something that any MJ fan would want to wear. I thought it would look pretty hot with my silver Chelsea boots also. Finished off with my Asos Curve fishnet tights, black duster jacket, lips bag and bandana, I was MJ ready!

A plus size woman smiling wearing a Michael Jackson beat it t-shirt, red faux leather zip front mini skirt, black duster jacket, red bandana and red lips bag

It’s crazy to think that the song has reached a 35 year milestone but is still just a fresh today as it was when it was first heard. Weddings, parties, club nights, pop discos and events all over the world are playing this song as we speak! MJ was one of the best musical artists for creating a timeless classic and being able to reach people of all generations with his music. Beat It is no exception to the rule and will forever remain a favourite for people everywhere. Let’s not forget the incredible cherry picker routine on the live tours!

Stay tuned on the blog because I will be having fun in more MJ inspired looks and paying homage to some other classics very soon. Last summer I played around with Dirty Diana. Who knows what i’ll be having fun with next!

A plus size woman smiling wearing a Michael Jackson beat it t-shirt and red bandana

Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and do it with a smile! 

The Beauty In The Pleat – A Lane Bryant Review

A plus size woman smiling in a pleated skirt and denim shirt, wearing heels and sunglasses

What woman out there doesn’t love a cute and summery outfit with a little added flare? In summer we are given the opportunity to experiment with layers, colours, textures and prints. Skirts and dresses are my go-to items in the warmer months. Their light and easy style make putting outfits together a lot of fun and can bring in new flavour. I fell in love with this gorgeous pleated midi skirt from Lane Bryant as soon as I had seen it! The kiss coloured flowers, gentle pleats and light fabric touch on the vintage with elements of modern style and make this a great summer option. Pleated plus size skirts are everywhere at the moment in a variety of lengths and shapes. Currently the trend is bold, block colours and metallic fabrics and so, we have something a little different with this…

A plus size woman smiling in a pleated skirt and denim shirt, wearing heelsA plus size floral pleated worn by a woman in the breeze

The highlight of my summer so far was of course my long anticipated trip to Las Vegas! For as long as I could remember I had wanted to see what made the city so spectacular. Weddings, celebrations and gambling are what sin city is most known for after all. In preparation for my American adventure I reached out to my friends at Lane Bryant to see if there was a store close to my hotel. The world famous fashion brand is a place all plus size fashionistas need to see when stateside! I’ve been a long-time fan of the company, their ethos shines bright with body positivity and their clothes reflect their views.

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The weather was scorching hot as soon as I stepped off the plane and I knew that I was in for an amazing trip! I love the feeling of the sun on my skin and although I had an MJ packed few days; I couldn’t wait to meet the Lane ladies! Day one into my trip, I jumped in a taxi and headed over to the Stephanie Henderson store just a 30 minute drive away from the strip. I was greeted by a group of beautiful women with huge smiles and such a welcoming atmosphere. I felt like a total VIP, a beautifully lit dressing room had been set aside for me. Gorgeous clothes awaiting me, music playing and amazing vibes all around. I selected a series of items to try on (some of which you’ll see on the blog very soon).

Check out a review of the stripy dress I wore during my visit here (dress still available online).

A plus size woman smiling in a pleated skirt and denim shirt, wearing heels and sunglassesA plus size woman smiling in a pleated skirt and denim shirt, wearing heels

Being in a Lane Store was an experience I won’t forget anytime soon. I have been admiring the variety of styles from the brand including their sexy Cacique Lingerie from afar and was finally able to try on countless items in sequence. I picked up this lace trimmed blush cami to wear with the skirt, also in 22. The colour matches the floral detail of the pleated skirt perfectly. Topped with a thick elasticated waist band and soft lining, the skirt is such a comfortable item on a hot day. It feels light against the skin and extremely soft to the touch.

A plus size woman smiling in a pleated skirt and denim shirt, wearing sunglassesA plus size woman smiling in a denim shirt, wearing sunglasses

I thought it would be nice to pair the outfit with my champagne coloured heels from Hotter and a soft denim shirt. Pretty, girly outfits can easily be dressed down slightly for a more casual summer look. It’s nice to stand out in a bright ensemble in an understated way sometimes. For accessories I opted for a gold clutch and these amazing Le Specs Liar Lair sunglasses in matte stone colour. My signature hoop earrings were a must in addition to my regular makeup and a soft pink lip gloss.

A plus size woman smiling in a pleated skirt and denim shirt, wearing heels and sunglassesA plus size woman smiling in a pleated skirt and denim shirt, wearing heels

I have to say I had an incredible time in Vegas, especially meeting some of the Lane Bryant team. I really hope I get to see these incredible women again as they gave me a shopping experience that not only plus women want, all women want! On my way back to the hotel and reflecting on the previous few hours I had, it was clear to me that shopping should be a pleasurable experience and can be. I left the store feeling valued as a customer, had a series of stylish options to choose from and, that I wanted to return soon. I’d never felt so happy shopping for clothes as a fat woman before! I have of course said to the ladies that if they are ever on this side of the pond i’ll be sure to show them the sights and sounds of London!

A plus size woman smiling in a Michael Jackson t-shirt, by the Las Vegas signA plus size woman smiling in a denim shirt, on a summers day

*This Skirt Was A Gifted Item
Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and do it with a smile!

One Step From The Sun

*This Is A Gifted Outfit

Hey everyone, I hope you’re enjoying the autumn season and getting into the festivities that are taking place out there. I personally like to spend as much time as I can playing around in the leaves, enjoying the amazing food and of course the fashion! At the moment I’m going through an experimental phase when it comes to my look. I still have those elements that will always creep into my outfits but recently I have been trying to get the most out of the bright days as possible, especially seeing as it gets pitch dark before 5pm! I have been lucky though, there have been some great options out there both on the high street and online.

The UK’s longest running fashion brand to cater to curvy girls is of course Evans. I have been shopping there for as long as I can remember and I have to say their options have expanded so much over the years! They have been collaborating with a series of brands, new and innovative designers and at expanding their collections with each season. Just a few days ago I was at the SS17 press event by Arcadia and there are some incredible new lines coming next year. Top Shop in addition to their amazing clothes have an incredible new makeup range, Dotty P are playing around with a series of beautiful feminine styles (there is a silver pair of stilettos I must have) and of course Evans are bringing us fabulous denim, funky florals, dainty lace items and a series of botanical prints.

Recently I was given the opportunity to pull some looks from their current collection and I have to say it took me an age to make my picks as the options were just endless! There was something for everyone with a strong and large range of sparkly and dazzling threads for the upcoming party season. I will be sharing many of these items with you right here on the blog in the very near future, but to start with I went with some items that can be adapted into a series of both casual and dressy looks. Hanna and I decided to go to lunch on a Sunday afternoon and of course took full advantage of the warm sunshine. I was wearing this incredible Black Animal Print Shirt Dress from Live Unlimited. The oversized shirt dress has hanky hem detail and a long fitted cami underneath. This is one that could easily be worn open as a duster jacket or worn as more of a floaty dress i’m wearing this in a size 22. I decided to put it with a pair of the Ultra Stretch Skinny Jeans, size 24 (a must have item) and I was almost set. I really like the length of this one and the loose feel and have found this can also transition into a more sophisticated outfit perfect for the work environment.

There are only a few days left where we can pull out sunnies and incorporate them into our outfits. I am a huge aviator fan and I have probably around 6 or 7 pairs! I won’t lie, ever since I saw Michael Jackson rock these as a kid I have been obsessed with them so when Ray-Ban brought out a pair of gorgeous mirrored shades in a series of colours I wanted a pair! The blue ones of course were the colour I fell in love with and I was lucky to have been given this amazing pair on my birthday by Hanna and Sarah. My hair has been in small tight twists for a couple of days so my curls were extremely tight and small, making my hair look slightly shorter, what better excuse does a girl need to show off her favourite pair! I also love that the blue tints bring out some of the blue undertones in the shirt dress.

I’m proud to say that my shoe collection is starting to grow and take some shape. I have to admit I put a lot less attention to my footwear than I do my clothes but recently I have found myself drawn to some really fun and interesting footwear. I like to feel comfortable when I’m out and about so this amazing pair of woven slip on sneakers from Lane Bryant were my shoes of choice.  A really bouncy and fun shoe that made for a great casual feel.

A simple long chain, my hoop earrings with some basic makeup and I was ready and set for my day. I like to be playful in my style and whilst keeping things simple sometimes I still try to wear an outfit with a bit of flair. As the cold starts to creep in i’ll have to play around with some more sweaters and jackets but while the sun still continues to shine I will most definitely include some light and floaty options into my look.

Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and wear it with a smile!

 

It’s All In The LBD!

There are many terms and phrases that are applied to the clothes that we wear and many of them are amazing at describing a particular garment or style. I have my very own fashion phrase, I often refer to wearing a power colour. For me there are 3 power colours that I always enjoy wearing, can easily and comfortably style and know that whatever my makeup or hair style I can rock! These would have to be red, blue and of course black! Black is that staple colour that everyone has in their wardrobes. Some people rely on this shade for their signature look and work it into all of their outfits, others like to use it as a statement choice or for a more sophisticated finish. I used to pretty much live in black and it’s not hard to see why, every other colour works with it, any season appreciates it and everyone knows how to rock it!

All women are pretty much told that it is essential to own at least one black dress that can work for all occasions and situations. I have to be honest whilst I have many black dresses I have only recently gotten one that works for any occasion and it would have to be this amazing midi dress from Zizzi. This is a brand I have loved since I was first introduced to their fresh and fun style and, I have to say everything I have worn of theirs I have felt amazing in! This dress in particular is from a previous collection of theirs. I should note that they have some fab options similar to this available from many online and in store outlets in Europe. We Brits are fortunate to be able to get some of their hot items from UK outlet Navabi.

I can’t quite say I have a particular style of dress that I favour but I do tend to gravitate towards dresses that are midi length with 3/4 sleeves. I guess it’s because I know what shoes I would pair with them or what jacket lol. What I loved about this dress when I first saw it was how simple it is in it’s style whilst still having some small but very striking features. I really love the split at the front with the asymmetrical cut and the broach detail at the waist for a little added bling. The gathering is really flattering and also can help on those days when you just don’t want to wear any shapewear. I like the scoop neck detail and long sleeves with baggy upper arms. This is a dress that nips and hugs all the right places and flows across the curves beautifully.

You all know how I am when it comes to colours, coordination is key in my look and lucky for me having black hair makes things easy at times. I decided when styling this one I would keep things simple. My Vanity ankle boots from Hotter were a must for height and comfort. I wanted a boot that was simple with a little added flair and the gold zipper detail was perfect for my choice of accessories. In keeping with the gold of the boots I wore a supper long, skinny gold necklace. I’ll be honest I couldn’t find my gold hoop earrings anywhere and so my silver ones were worn. It worked out well though because my black, gold and silver bangle came in handy and my sequin clutch was the perfect bag to pull it all together. I just so happened to be wearing silver chrome nail polish too lol. My look was simple staple colours and tones but it all tied in together well. This dress is fast becoming one of my favourites to wear, I have worn it to work, out with friends for dinners and as somewhat of a modest party dress.

When I took these pics I was in a pretty good mood. You know when you’re having a day when you like how your make up came out and you think your hair is pretty much on fleek? I always wear a rich red lip when i’m wearing a fully black outfit. I find the small but sharp pop of colour adds a little extra something to the look. I also love how the contrast between my hair and the outfit combined with the red lipstick makes my teeth look so bright and white.

Confidence is the most important accessory you can bring to any look. I always find that if you feel good in what your wearing you tend to feel better during the day. You feel ready for whatever task is at hand, can walk with pride and get the job done! A Little black dress may be an essential element to the wardrobe of every woman, but it has to be something that makes you feel a million dollars when wearing it! I have to say I have a lot of fun wearing this dress and find that I get a little extra spring in my step as I feel so amazing wearing it!

Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and wear it with a smile!

All Girls Love Pink

*Top Leggings And Shoes Were Gifted Items

You know it’s funny  how some things you just can’t seem to get used to. Take London for example, I have lived in this crazy city my entire life and I still struggle with what to wear between the months of September and October. See you would think that we would be well into the autumn season by now but the truth is, we had a pretty hot September and October has shown itself to be a very confused month weather-wise. We’ve had hot bursts of sunshine, rain and even winter cold. Many people are making the choice to eliminate all colour from their wardrobes, opting for a more dark and sophisticated selection during the season.

I personally love wearing black I always have as I find it to be one of the easiest block colours to play with. I too tend to wear many darker colours this time of year but I enjoy bringing in a sharp burst of colour to wake up an outfit. One colour I don’t have much of but always enjoy wearing is pink. I really like the way it works with my complexion and I find it can be a great colour to soften a look. I thought it would be cool to wear this baby pink asymmetrical frill top from Evans. What first drew me to this top when selecting it for review was the frill detail. I’m not a huge fan of hanky hem designs but this one really caught my attention. I really like how much longer it is at the back compared to the front and I found that this was a really comfortable top to wear both causally and professionally. As much as I enjoy showcasing a little cleavage now and then it is nice to be able to wear a modest design you can cleverly accessorise to spice up the style.

As there is a chill in the air at the moment I decided to pair this one with one of my old favourites, my black longline cardigan from a previous Yours Clothing collection. I love layering blacks and so it was a no brainer for me to wear this look with the best pair of leggings I have ever owned! One thing about sharing a love of fashion with one of your best friends is when you share info about new and interesting brands and styles. Hanna recently introduced me to a small indie brand from Finland, Excuse My Bon Bon. They create modern and fresh clothes for us curvy girls and have a great motto that goes along with the clothes. “Excuse my bon bon” is something I personally took to mean ‘excuse my big booty while I rock these hot clothes! The brand say ‘it is an attitude that helps you focus on the good, to make way for the curves and enjoy the chocolates without a guilty conscience’. I love that their focus is on how you feel in the clothes. I find if you feel good in what you’re wearing the clothes they will look great regardless! It just so happens that they have a really chic and sexy range of high quality garments to suit all shapes.

Their Lina leggings are an incredible fit, featuring a high waist with rubber band elasticated panels that smooth and lift your behind whilst pretty much working as spanx to the stomach. I have to say they are extremely comfortable and are a nice thick material perfect for the colder days. I really like the thick seam detail  across the front of the legs too. In keeping with selecting black items to complete this look my Michelle heels from Hotter were my shoe of choice and a black paisley bandana for my hair. Silver is always my go-to jewellery colour and so I thought my love hearts matching necklace and drop earrings would be a fun and girly addition to the look and my sparkly silver clutch with chain strap.

Like many women out there I often carry my shades with me just in case there’s a nice burst of sunshine and so I had what I call my “Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis” shades from D&G with me. I love a pair of large tinted shades. They not only work on sunny days but also on those days when you have the outfit together but don’t quite have time to fix your eye makeup lol.

Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and wear it with a smile!

Sophisticated Chic – A Junarose Review

*This Dress Is A Gifted Item

There are many things I love about the current options plus size women have when it comes to fashion and beauty. One in particular are the multipurpose clothing items out there. Many of us are busy working women, some even have the added challenge of raising a family. We all have our things to do and time can be taxing so it’s nice to have comfortable casual style options that work between personal and professional, night and day.

I love dresses of all shapes, colours and styles but I have to admit my closet holds only a few strapless items. Like many curvy girls out there my arms have been a sore spot for me confidence wise and it’s only been about a year or so since I realised having my arms out doesn’t bother me at all anymore. I guess you could say I was worried about my biceps being a little too chunky. As time has passed things like that don’t really bother me in the same way that they used to. Those of you who are familiar with my blog will know that I’m all about wearing what you like and not really thinking about what other people’s opinions are…

I was recently given the chance to go through some amazing Junarose samples and one dress that caught my eye is this wrap front maxi dress. I instantly knew that this dress would be perfect for some casual wear, a day out with friends or even a business lunch. Stopping just across the calf this one makes for a nice length on my 5’5 frame. Perfect if you want to show off a little skin without showing too much. In a soft periwinkle blue with added tie detail this strapless number is most definitely a multipurpose dress! The wrap front with lapel detail gives off a tasteful amount of cleavage and the ties are a small but really nice addition.

I decided to wear this one with some strappy black sandals and a simple clutch. A cute blazer, denim or even a biker jacket would help in bringing this dress into more of an evening look. The block colour also makes this one work with gold or silver adornments and accessories. I recently had my hair in braids so with this look I decided to sweep them up into a bun and wear simply diamante stud earrings. I kept my makeup simple, wearing a deep pink lip for a bit of added colour.

This dress is currently on sale, available from the Junarose website.

Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and wear it with a smile!

Girly Girl

There are some things that all women have in common regardless of what their background or personal style is. We have all found ourselves sifting through everything that we own in our wardrobes unsure of what to wear, and we have all woken up with a random need to feel somewhat girly. Now girly for some would be dressing in bright pink with their hair in pigtails and cute makeup. For others it might be wearing a set of lingerie that makes them feel that extra bit feminine. In my case when I feel the need to be girly one thing comes to mind. What sort of skirt am I gonna wear and how big do I want it? I tend to gravitate towards sexy bodycon dresses, vintage swing dresses or tulle skirts.

The sun was shinning bright and strong the other day in London and I knew that I wanted to wear my navy tutu skirt but I had no idea what I should pair with it. The last time I had worn this skirt the weather was a lot cooler and I was able to pair it with a sweater and some nude heels. This time around I wanted to be bright in the summer sunshine but I also wanted a look that would transition well into an evening look. The plan was set I was going to go bare legged and pair the skirt with a cute t-shirt. Now I should note that this particular skirt was from Asos a while back and from their standard range. From what I have seen they no longer stock this one but they do have some similar options here. Last summer Scandinavian brand Zizzi released their summer collection, Wardrobe of wonders. They had some amazing items including some cute school girl inspired items, check out my previous review here. In the collection they had a really cool digital print line featuring midi skirt and crop top tee. I was lucky enough to get the skirt and borrowed the top a few times from Hanna. The good news is that both the top and skirt are still available from UK outlet Navabi.

What I love about plus size fashions now is that there is something for every kind of curvy woman out there. Should you choose urban street styles, vintage classics, current casuals or smart sophisticated evening wear there is something for everyone. I have said many times I like to dress to my mood which I why I like to carry a wide range of clothes in my wardrobe so that I can be ready to attend whatever event or occasion in appropriate items. My personal trick to save space and money is to buy clothes that can be worn in more than one way preferably for a casual and smart look. Of course I have some items that are exclusive to specific occasions but this is why when I pick my separates such as skirts and tops, I tend to go for colours I can easily incorporate into my style. Anyone who knows me personally will know that I try to colour coordinate almost everything I wear. This is something that was ingrained into me as a child and a particular style trait I still practice.

I thought I would wear my pleather biker jacket for additional coverage and to offset the black heels I chose. I opted for my number 1 go to heels my pairs of Michelle shoes from Hotter. A simple black clutch was required, my signature hoop earrings and a pop of red! I chose my new favourite lipgloss, Forgive My Sin from L’Oreal Paris. I tend to keep my makeup the same with pinup style winged eye liner, mascara, my brows of course and a touch of foundation. I play around mostly with my lip colour but it tends to be reds and pinks I gravitate towards the most. Specifically deep reds. I love how they look against my complexion and I find that my teeth looks miles whiter when I wear red which is always a bonus lol.

Every now and again it’s fun to dress up in a way that makes you feel fun, feminine and bright. Sometimes you just have to do what makes you feel good and be mindful that you may draw some attention to yourself which is always good if you’re feeling confident! Have fun with your look and if you haven’t already ladies, try out a tutu or tulle skirt! They are a lot of fun to wear and can make for some great outfits!

Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and wear it with a smile!

 

 

Back To My Roots

You know it’s funny sometimes things happen to you for reasons you don’t expect and when you don’t see them coming. In my case I’m talking about my latest achievement on my journey to confidence. What I’m about to discuss for some people would seem like a small thing but if you stick with me for a few minutes I’ll do my best to explain. A few weeks ago I decided to take the plunge and go natural. What do I mean by go natural? I’m speaking specifically about my hair. Most women know what it is to wear their natural hair and even what it is to treat and style it. I really had never had the chance to do so until just over a month ago. Let me take you back a bit…

Me as a tot with my dreads

When I was a child my hair was in dreadlocks until I was about 14-15 years old. Both my mother and father have dreadlocks and my mum later told me it was never her intention to lock my hair but as a child I simply would not let her style it without bringing my house into a state of chaos as I screamed in protest while she worked to style my hair. Of course my hair was a lot softer as a child but I have always had extremely thick and tight hair. Growing up I never really thought much about my hair I would wash it weekly and then sit down to let my mother twist my stray hairs into my locks. It was when I got into secondary school I realised that I wanted to change my hair and try new styles but that would mean doing the dreaded chop and cutting it all off. As an over weight teenager who already had a lot of attention from bullies and other people in the class the last thing I wanted to was draw more attention to myself by having a bald head, so I spoke to my mum about the situation and it was decided that I would let my hair grow out somewhat and then cut it and work with braids until I could get it to a decent length.

In My late teens with braided extensions

I started speaking to some of my cousins to see what things they did to maintain and style their hair and I soon realised that I would have some different challenges to them when it came to maintaining my own hair. My hair is thicker than that of most people’s and some would describe the texture as nappy. To mixed raced and black people it’s been deemed over the years a really negative thing to have nappy hair. What the term means is that you have really dry, coarse and tight afro like hair. For people of other ethnicities this doesn’t seem to even be something they think about and in truth most of my friends who are of other backgrounds have been pushing for me to wear my natural hair out for years! The problem with doing this was, well me…

Me with my hair relaxed, wearing some weave tracks in my hair

The truth is that for decades the world has been shown one very small standard of beauty which leans towards the looks and features that Caucasian, European women have. Thinner bodies with slightly smaller curves and beautiful long, shiny and straight hair. Already women of colour were set a precedent that we simply could not live by and as a result we have seen women bleaching their skin for years, dressing and wearing clothes that may not have been their preferred style and of course the changing and experimentation with our hair. For years women like myself played around with relaxing our hair which basically means to paint a chemical paste into our hair that burns it straight. I did this for years and to be honest I always have and will always hate the process. It’s extremely painful and could often times leave you with scabs or scars on your scalp. The hair can become brittle and damaged and as a result can take forever and a day to grow! The thing is I come from a mixed race family and have a host of friends from all over the world so I personally don’t feel I have carried all of the baggage that some other coloured women carry when it comes to having confidence in their looks. In my case the problem was initially my weight and then of course my hair.

Wearing a relaxer with a clip in extension 

I finally reached a point where I would find ways to achieve the hair looks I liked without having to put my hair and scalp through so much physical trauma. I started to experiment with weaves, clips ins and eventually wigs. The truth is though while I like how I looked with these styles they are extremely expensive to do. It’s no wonder the hair industry is such a wealthy business and from what I have seen over the years it’s women of colour who have been the largest consumers of synthetic and human hair supplies and extensions. Recently we have seen a rise with women of all races buying into these products which I can only assume is a result of celebrity pressure that we all face, through social media and reality TV shows. The past 10-20 years has seen women doing anything and everything to enhance the beauty we already carry with wearing new styles of makeup such as nail extensions, false eye lashes, fillers and injectables and of course additional hair pieces. I recently hit a financial snag and was simply unable to find the few hundred pounds required to do something about my hair! I thought about relaxing my hair again which I hadn’t done for nearly 2 years and thought back to the horrible experiences of my past. The average woman can use about half  tub of relaxer to work on the 2-3 inches of regrowth she would need to burn her hair straight. In my case I would need up to 2 tubs for the same amount of hair growth due to how thick and coarse my hair is! I could only imagine how much of the stuff I would need to do what’s known as a virgin relaxer and the thought of sitting for an hour with my scalp on fire was not an option!

Wearing a wig

A mix between natural and enhanced. I wear my hair in corn row braids and a clip in extension

My friend Venice had taken the time out to pretty much give me the push I needed to just work with what god gave me and wear my own hair out. It had been years since I had worn just my natural hair out, the last time was when I had had dreadlocks! Now in my late twenties the prospect was rather daunting for me and I suddenly felt my self confidence being questioned. Venice washed and conditioned my hair (with some products I’ll later be reviewing on the blog), showed me some techniques to condition my hair to help with growth and style. She had been doing the same thing to her daughter’s who’s hair is like mine. I have to say after taking out my large twists and seeing my huge bouncy curls I was taken aback for about 5 minutes and then I suddenly thought wow it’s me, all me! Even my hair has a large personality of it’s own and I should embrace this! I took some pictures with Hanna, put them on Facebook and the amount of compliments I received from my friends and loved ones shocked me! I was given a new source of confidence and I am slowly falling in love with my own hair for the first time in my life!

Like I said before I know this seems like a small fate to some but I had no idea why so many women were throwing away the wigs and weaves and going bare with their own hair. This was a movement I hadn’t taken the time to look into or be a part of. I simply ended up taking note when I saw other friends doing the same and it was only because of my financial situation and some kind words from some friends that I thought oh what the hell let’s give it a go! I say it all the time about fashion and wearing what makes you feel confident, we need to play around with our look more to see what works for us. I now say the same about your hair and I encourage all women out there with quote on quote “nappy” or course hair to give this a go! I’m so happy I did!

Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and wear it with a smile!

Back To Black

There has been a lot of changes for me recently. The past few months has seen me go through many things such as changes and new developments in my work life, enjoying spending more time with friends and taking some much need Mayah time. Things have been quite stressful on a personal front and I recently experienced a really horrible stomach illness. As a result of all this I have decided to roll with the punches and make some adjustments to all areas of my life and of course this includes my look!

As I previously mentioned I had been suffering from a really uncomfortable and difficult to detect illness called Helicobacter pylori. To cut things short I was experiencing severe stomach cramps every time I ate anything. The pain was unbearable and could leave me in pain for hours at a time. Around 1 in 10 people suffer from this and if left untreated, you can be left with stomach ulcers. After a lot of tests and doctors appointments I finally got to the bottom of the situation and began treatment. Throughout all of this I have lost quite a bit of weight and have dropped just over a dress size. Now I love my clothes and although the slight weight loss is of course good for me health wise I’ve had some minor challenges when putting my looks together.

After one of our afternoon mate dates Hanna and I decided to take some blog pictures for each other, and so Hanna as always began to put her style genius to work and pull some clothes for me to wear. I was already wearing my ripped skinny jeans from Evans (size 24) and so Hanna thought a white tank top would go to creating an edgy casual look. It’s no secret that I enjoy wearing a variety of different styles and I tend to dress according to my mood. This look gave me a fitted yet comfortable look. I have to say I love these jeans and they have fast become a staple in my wardrobe. They are also available in white, i’ll be sure to pick up a pair of those very soon!

We thought it would be fun to pair the jeans with a plan white tank top. I’m usually the girl who wears shapewear or spanx to smooth the appearance of my belly but every now and again I decide against it and just “let it all hang out” as they say. There has been a trend for the past few years for women to embrace their VBL and in my case I do so depending on the look I want to achieve. As there is still a slight chill in the air I decided to pull on my oversized stripped shirt with pull strings from Zizzi. Unfortunately this shirt is no longer available as it comes from a previous collection but be sure to check out their website to see what new looks are available.

I have developed a really strong appreciation of this brand, the quality and style of their clothes is just perfect for me. When I think casual sexy I tend to gravitate towards Scandinavian clothing brands like Zizzi, Junarose and Carmakoma. These brands have a wide selection of plus size threads to suit women with a slight edge and quirkiness to their style. You’ll see some upcoming posts featuring these brands and there have been a few previous ones if you decide to check out some of my old posts.

I say it a lot and my previous outfit posts will showcase how much I love wearing beret style hats. I have many in several colours and as I was already wearing my black one when I arrived at Hanna’s I thought it best to leave it on for this look as I was experiencing some very dodgy hat hair underneath lol. Hanna let me borrow he platform chunky heels to finish off the look and we accessorised the outfit with a really cute leather backpack, very 90s.

Needless to say I had a lot of fun with this look and enjoyed the feel I had when wearing it. I felt very Stacy Dash in Clueless with this look and thought that a sharp pop of red lipstick would just set things off. I find that a lot of people tend to dress very sophisticatedly when wearing black and white clothes. It’s really easy to keep it simple and just add slight twists to the look to get the overall look you want. Have fun with what you have in your wardrobe and try playing around with casual and dressy items, the combination can make for a really sassy look!

Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and wear it with a smile!