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Today I Choose Joy

A plus size woman smiling wearing a baby pink trench coat, black skinny jeans, Celine Audrey sunglasses, black boots and silver faux leather backpack

It’s funny, sometimes the energy you put out there can really start a new topic of discussion. I have had countless people contact me recently all speaking on the positivity I display. Many people find it to be refreshing and others have asked me ‘Mayah what makes you so happy?’ In all honesty, I choose to be happy. The more time I spend navigating this world the more I see that joy and happiness are things that don’t happen to you. These are things that you grab by the hands and take for yourself.

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My story is one full of roller coaster situations with twists and turns. My childhood and teen years saw me go through quite traumatic bullying. As a result, I ended up making poor choices, entering bad relationships and not taking care of myself. I had to reach a place where it was important for me to “check myself”. I guess you could say I learned that in order to get to a place of joy I had to start with myself…

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Several years ago my life led me to a place where I took my relationship with God to a deeper place and I decided to get baptised. I had been contemplating doing so for a while but I guess all things happen in the correct timing. People of faith often speak on joy as though it’s something only reserved for believers. I don’t agree with that statement. I think we all have a right to happiness, light and love but I do know from personal experience that we have to make it happen. People tend to fall into the trap of thinking that one day they will wake up and everything in their life will be perfect. The thing is this; if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got! I think a paradigm shift and taking the steps to make things happen is the key.

A plus size woman smiling wearing a baby pink trench coat, black skinny jeans, grey joy slogan t-shirt and silver faux leather backpack A plus size woman smiling wearing a baby pink trench coat, black skinny jeans, black boots and silver faux leather backpack

I decided to start enjoying how I look, surrounding myself with like minded and positive people among other things. Talking about what I wanted in life was a pointless exercise. Deciding to just get on with things and focus on what makes me happy and what I’m good at made the difference. The easy thing is to focus on the things we’re bad at. That weight we’ve gained, our singleness, lack of money we have… I could go on really. My point is that we spend too much time and energy thinking about what’s wrong with our situations. When you switch your thought patterns to focus on the positive everything changes. You’ll be surprised at how happy you actually are! Don’t get me wrong you may not be where you want to be but, you will have made some strides forward!

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When I saw this slogan t-shirt from Zizzi at Navabi I knew I had to have it. This one phrase describes my current state of mind and place in life. ‘TODAY I CHOOSE JOY!’ In other words, I’m making the choice to be happy. I like everyone else have my bad days but I thought i’m gonna make a statement by wearing the words and not just a smile! When putting this look together I wanted to pair the grey tee with a simple pair of black jeans. I selected my supper skinny stretch jeans from Lane Bryant. Yours Clothing recently sent me these fab ankle boots so they were an easy inclusion.

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Finishing things off I decided to add a touch of freshness with this baby pink trench coat from Evans. I thought it would be cool to wear some accessories. Hanna let me borrow her Celine Audrey sunglasses for some added glam. Tobi recently sent me some fun new things which I wanted to include with this look. I’m pretty sure that by now when people think of my style hoop earrings come to mind. With that being said you can see why I wanted this pair of in the loop hoops! Adding more silver I selected the faux leather backpack.

Aside from what i’m wearing, ultimately the key is to do the things that make you happy. It might the clothes you wear that make you smile, the people you’re with or what you do.

A plus size woman smiling wearing a baby pink trench coat and grey joy slogan t-shirt
Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and do it with a smile! 

Beat It 35

A plus size woman smiling wearing a Michael Jackson beat it t-shirt, red faux leather zip front mini skirt, black duster jacket, silver metallic Chelsea boots and red bandana

When it comes to music there isn’t a person alive who doesn’t know and love the works of Michael Jackson. I am one of the rare few who would loudly and proudly describe myself as a die hard fan. Thriller is still the largest selling album of all time. With that being said me and the guys are celebrating 35 years of the pop rock classic Beat It. Unfortunately I wasn’t born when the track came out but I have grown up listening to this classic song and not once has it ever felt old!

A plus size woman wearing a Michael Jackson beat it t-shirt, red faux leather zip front mini skirt, black duster jacket, silver metallic Chelsea boots and red bandanaA plus size woman smiling wearing a Michael Jackson beat it t-shirt, red faux leather zip front mini skirt, black duster jacket, silver metallic Chelsea boots, red bandana and red lips bag

When I think of MJ’s Beat It so many things come to mind. The track destroyed boundaries all over and made Michael one of the first artists to be loved and embraced by music lovers of all races and backgrounds. Making him a world shaker and game changer on his own. It’s fair to say that Michael pretty much owned the 80s! Even though rock music was very much a white American genre back in the day, MJ was one of the pioneers to change all of that. The fierce commercial track with world famous guitar solo by Eddie Van Halen changed the game. People of all ages still have a phenomenal time playing air guitar and screaming out the catchy chorus.

A plus size woman smiling wearing a Michael Jackson beat it t-shirt, red faux leather zip front mini skirt, black duster jacket and red bandanaA plus size woman wearing a Michael Jackson beat it t-shirt, red faux leather zip front mini skirt, black duster jacket, silver metallic Chelsea boots and red bandana

Beat it just so happens to be one of the first choreographed dance routines that fans worldwide can all do! I myself have been known to let loose when the song plays out in public. Truth be told, you really don’t care when the music is that good! I know I’m not the only one who also connects the song with the red leather zipper jacket! No one on the planet is able to wear a similar jacket without Michael Jackson and “beat it” being mentioned.

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With that being said you can understand why I decided to style this look the way that I have. King-Of-Shop is something that myself and the boys are extremely proud of. The world’s most successful and talked about MJ merchandise and apparel online store. We are known for only selling official MJ merchandise and fine collectables. Beat It is also heavily featured on the site at the moment and this t-shirt is one of the many available styles so be sure to check us out!

A plus size woman wearing a Michael Jackson beat it t-shirt, red faux leather zip front mini skirt, black duster jacket, silver metallic Chelsea boots, red bandana and red lips bagA plus size woman smiling wearing a Michael Jackson beat it t-shirt, red faux leather zip front mini skirt, black duster jacket, silver metallic Chelsea boots, red bandana and red lips bag

I was recently sent the most amazing red faux leather zip front mini skirt from In The Style Curve. I knew that it would be perfect with this t-shirt and the Beat It theme. The funky zips remind me of those on the jacket. Scarlet red and vibrant faux leather is something that any MJ fan would want to wear. I thought it would look pretty hot with my silver Chelsea boots also. Finished off with my Asos Curve fishnet tights, black duster jacket, lips bag and bandana, I was MJ ready!

A plus size woman smiling wearing a Michael Jackson beat it t-shirt, red faux leather zip front mini skirt, black duster jacket, red bandana and red lips bag

It’s crazy to think that the song has reached a 35 year milestone but is still just a fresh today as it was when it was first heard. Weddings, parties, club nights, pop discos and events all over the world are playing this song as we speak! MJ was one of the best musical artists for creating a timeless classic and being able to reach people of all generations with his music. Beat It is no exception to the rule and will forever remain a favourite for people everywhere. Let’s not forget the incredible cherry picker routine on the live tours!

Stay tuned on the blog because I will be having fun in more MJ inspired looks and paying homage to some other classics very soon. Last summer I played around with Dirty Diana. Who knows what i’ll be having fun with next!

A plus size woman smiling wearing a Michael Jackson beat it t-shirt and red bandana

Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and do it with a smile! 

Let’s Get Customised

A plus size woman talking on a mobile phone

One accessory that everyone has with them at all times is their phone. Many people would go into panic mode if they left the house without it. People who own tablets i’m sure feel the same way. As most of us are heavy texters, app users and general tech savvy geniuses these days it makes sense to be creative with these things! We make our gadgets work for us so why not get yours customised?

We all select what ring tone suits us best, fill up our dash boards with a selection of apps etc.. I think it’s fair to say that everyone is a little gadget obsessed these days! There are so many different cases out there that it can be hard to choose one to fit you! Rather than trying to pick something out from a market or in a store why not create your own! Go Customised got in touch with me recently to see if I would like to do just that.

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Emails and messages are often filling up my inbox, as a blogger i’m someone who always has her phone close by. During my morning and evening commute is when I get the chance to keep on top of my messages. So what would make you want to get your item customised? It’s a great way to showcase your personality to the world, especially when you’re on the go. Music is my ultimate passion and so it only made sense that I would want a music related design for my case. I’ll be honest tough I wasn’t sure what to go for. I jumped on my photoshop and threw a vibrant and colourful design together.

Many people would select a family photo, their favourite sports team or something totally abstract. There’s something to suit everyone by the company though. Go Customised have plastic hard cases, bamboo options, wallet and flip case styles for each generation of Iphone and Samsung models. It’s definitely worth checking out if you want to give your item a new look!

A plus size woman talking on the phone

It’s All About Love

A plus size woman smiling wearing a black love slogan sweater, a-line midi skirt and blue trainers

It’s the first week in December and with that comes talks of family, friends, gatherings and of course love. The UK is always buzzed this time of year but after hearing the news of Prince Harry’s engagement it seems love is something the whole country is thinking of. Mistletoe is hanging everywhere, romantic movies are on show. Parties, dinners and other celebrations are taking place all over the country…. And it’s no surprise that already a date is set for our favourite royal and wedding bells will be ringing in May. I am a huge fan of love in all of it’s forms and I enjoy wearing things to represent that. When I saw this cute off the shoulder sweater from Rose Gal I knew I wanted to try it. This one is available in red, white and grey also.

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Sometimes you want a girly look with a twist. I paired this sweater with a pleather skirt from Zizzi that I was sent with some other samples. Deciding to keep everything black I thought i’d throw in a splash of colour in places. Wearing a cute pair of satin trainers in my favourite colour blue, these are from a recent Asos collection. When my clothes are black I like to wear red lipstick with my makeup.

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I’m a sucker for all things love related. I enjoy seeing people gather and sharing positive vibes. Being out and about seeing people romantically in love and doing kind things for others makes me smile. The funny thing is that in some cultures my name carries the meaning so maybe there’s something in that lol. At present I pretty much have a non existent romantic life. Not a woman who gets in my feelings about these things, I like to focus my energies on loving myself and those around me. Of course I start with trying to spend time learning and building my faith, eating right, sleeping well, exercising and taking the time to see friends and family. I won’t try to pretend to be perfect though, like everyone else I have my faults…

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Things often happen that challenge how we see things. I’ve been doing my best to stay positive but things keep happening to make that difficult. Just a couple of days ago my eldest uncle passed away and this led me to again seeing the importance of family closeness and support for each other. Even sometimes when you mentally prepare for something the reality of it can still knock you for six. Honestly, I don’t know where I would be if I didn’t have people in my life who look out for me and show me that level of love and care. My new mission in life is fast becoming to be a support for others as best I can.

A plus size woman smiling wearing a black love slogan sweater, a-line midi skirt and satin blue trainersA plus size woman wearing a black love slogan sweater, a-line midi skirt and satin blue trainers

The aim is to encourage people everywhere to be confident, positive, motivating forces in their own lives. In a recent post I published on instagram I wrote “You would be surprised how many people are down, lonely and hurting in some way. The little things you can do for someone can mean more to them than you could possible know! A simple compliment or a smile can be all a person needs so be sure to spread your kindness as much as you can!” I guess you could say I have experience with dealing with negativity and can first hand speak on how you can be a blessing to someone without even really trying.

A plus size woman wearing a black love slogan sweater, a-line midi skirt and satin blue trainersA plus size woman smiling wearing a black love slogan sweater, a-line midi skirt and satin blue trainers

We should treat people the way we wish to be treated, this is something I truly believe. A simple act of kindness to someone can make the world of difference and is a great way of spreading the love!

Check out my recent review of a vintage swing dress my Rose Gal.

A plus size woman smiling wearing a black love slogan sweater
*The top and skirt are gifted items
Remember whatever you wear, feel fabulous in it and do it with a smile!